I met you out with friends and I don't know where you get off calling me a mess. Your not even from here! I told you that I'm in a poly relationship with one partner and going through a separation/divorce with the spouse and am in a transitional period. I also divulged that I'm looking for peeps to go out with, casual date-ships (this does NOT mean just casual sex) with physically attractive, poly and switchy types who enjoy attending sex positive/bdsm and poly friendly parties and events fairly often with possibility for a more longer term, committed relationship. THIS DOES NOT MEAN I'M A MESS! Seriously, I don't know where you transplants get the nerve. This is Poly-Porrtland you know, and this is how we live. Get over it!