What if it's all a game? What if the married couple are both poly and just not letting GOTS in on it?

I mean, one tends to hope for the best possible outcome.

@ Scrum, yeah that seems pretty likely. I think Savage readers tend to overestimate the the poly population.

I don't tend to hope for the best outcome. Like Dan, I think there's a huge proportion of his readers who just read for the gross-out stuff and pick and choose from the ethics stuff whatever suits whatever the fuck they feel like doing.

It's pretty obvious how frustrating that is for Dan when they e-mail him with BS like this and think they're in the right in his mind. Hence, another clarifying decree.

@stringofbarf,

Not sure why I'm engaging on this, but like most things in life, there's a counterbalance to your line of logic ("we like to fuck, therefore we should never stop fucking everything we want to fuck"), and it's possessiveness, jealousy, violence and general disorder. (None of this is to judge or declare invalid the successfully nonmonagomous, mind you, just stating a general principle the way you were)

I enjoy eating, but I understand that there are good reasons that I don't just eat everything I want to eat all the time. I guess I can consider it a "problem" that I can't, but that doesn't really get me anywhere other than an accurate formulation of reality.

I think Dan Savage's objection is how much shit ancillary to fucking this professor dude is into. That's worrisome, it implies the fucking is just icing on the being-shitty cake.