I don't see anything in the original communication that's particularly disrespectful or gross. The guy sent a message which was direct and to the point. There are people who like NSA hookups when traveling, and people who like NSA hookups with travelers. If that's not her cup of tea, a simple "Thanks, but no thanks" would've sufficed. And profiles on OKCupid can always be blocked, if somebody does happen to cross a line. Also, don't you just love the way she self-validated her (sarcastic, and far more disrespectful) response by claiming that it drew scary misogynist assholery, then conveniently withheld said scary misogynist assholery in her letter to you, Dan? Frankly, I can't help but wonder if there actually *was* any scary misogynist assholery...