I could not agree with you more. It's one thing to encourage acceptance of oneself and others, and it is an entirely different thing to re-create exclusion in reverse.
That said, most people feel the need to belong to a group. For most of us, "the whole of humanity" is not a specific enough group to satisfy that need. Therefore, whatever group we belong to will necessarily have members, and non-members. Defining both members and non-members is important. Sadly, some people are especially cruel during this process, but the intent and the outcome are the same whether cruelty is present or not. Unfortunately, you seem to find yourself stuck between two groups, both of which will exclude you in rather cruel ways. Lucky for you, there is a third, much less vocal, group in which you are always welcome. It's called "the rest of us," and I am a proud member. We're happy to have you.
Best submission letter in a while, and she's right on all points. Plus it sounds like she has a bangin curvy body. Seriously, avoid anyone who demands you accept/celebrate their gluttony/unhealthiness. That kind of desperation reeks worse than the BO on a fat chick.
Zibby- Every social group or community has catty assholes. My guess is that 3 or 4 people were hating while the rest were awesome and accepting, just like any other gathering.
If people at the event have a problem with people of other sizes enjoying the event, they are not truly accepting of themselves... that's just my opinion. Fat Acceptance means accepting people of all sizes! Duh.
That said, most people feel the need to belong to a group. For most of us, "the whole of humanity" is not a specific enough group to satisfy that need. Therefore, whatever group we belong to will necessarily have members, and non-members. Defining both members and non-members is important. Sadly, some people are especially cruel during this process, but the intent and the outcome are the same whether cruelty is present or not. Unfortunately, you seem to find yourself stuck between two groups, both of which will exclude you in rather cruel ways. Lucky for you, there is a third, much less vocal, group in which you are always welcome. It's called "the rest of us," and I am a proud member. We're happy to have you.
I dunno, I'm losing my hair. If a dude with a full head of hair walked into my bald guy party, I'd be pissed.