I feel the same way sometimes Anon. My friends are either married and have children, or they spend all their time with a worthless guy identified as THE ONE. I strongly dislike fake community, conversational texting, and people who act friendly to market their dj events to me on facebook. I too am at a loss about how to find new friends. So while I have no advice, maybe it's something to know that you are not alone.
...I mean, start hand writing letters and mailing them the old-fashioned way to show people how much you really care.
Totally not the other postal...
There you go. Dozens upon dozens of opportunities to meet like-minded people.