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Yes, you're clothed, but as a member of a barbershop quartet. Ditch the straw hat and you might have a chance.
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In some cases, it's something you're doing wrong. Since I'm not seeing any of your emails, I have no idea what that is, or how to remedy it.
In other cases, it's them freaking out about something that probably has nothing to do with you. You don't want to date them anyway. You're welcome.
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Here's the thing dude: There are a few types of girls on these sites..here's the break down.

1. The pixie hipster broad
She's trying to pad her self esteem, she'll exchange emails but doesn't want to meet. She just needs people to admire her quirkyness. She's so proud she was able to move out here from the mid-west and reinvent herself with some dark hair dye, red lipstick and a pair of frames. And can you believe it--she paints and decorates her lampshades!! Eventually she'll settle down but it will be with your friend..after she dated him first, then you and then him again..There might be hope..the keyword (and they like it this way) is 'might'.

2. The single mom
She's probably a button pusher. Take your chances.

3.The traveler
Her life has been better and more adventurous than yours. She works hard and plays harder! She rock climbs, skydives, travelled to Patagonia, Spain, Thailand and Bali and wants you to fucking know about it. Honestly lady--who hasn't--it's not who you are..try to stay focused. The problem with these ladies is focus--you being a guy in the city and the things you can offer her as a potential mate--they won't keep her interested. That's okay. Just move on..some people were meant to be nomadic

4. The swinger
Wishy washy about everything, bisexual or some other non-binary sexual orientation and will rock your socks off. Just make sure you are careful. This will be fun, you will get uncomfortable, assuming you're a square in the bedroom, and you'll fall in love with her..she will leave you for your friend. That is if you can wrangle her into meeting you for a drink.

5. The broke, young, drunk chicks.
Probably a safe bet if you're just looking for someone to accompany you to the watering hole. She'll rack up a tab like a Rolling Stone groupy. You will become her babysitter.. She'll end up so shit-faced you won't be able to respect yourself if you take her back to your place. The way to get her to come out with you should be obvious.


6. The Big Girls
Yep. And as an online dater you gotta love some home cookin'!! Offer to make her some dinner at your place and let the good times roll. Probably your best bet when it comes to women fishin on the net. Big girls are a lot of fun, usually have a better personality, or at least they should, and they don't mind getting down to business.

When it comes to getting a girl to meet up with you in person you have to first ween out the ones who are just on there to get their egos stroked. You might have missed that part dude. I don't know. But it's true, a lot of people have such low self esteem they put a profile up just to get attention. It's a tricky little game. Good luck and Happy Hunting!
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I'Anonymous,I can speak for a lot of girls and women. The right girl will not be advertising for a man. If you just be yourself, and hopefully have a great sense of humor,know how to ride a motorcycle and also be a great cook. Or don't ride a hog or cook, and keep yourself well groomed and love animals. Been married 30 years, and fell in love with the funniest,coolest guy. Remember,good sense of humor. When you aren't trying too much, you will meet your love. We married too young so they say,and still respect each other. Happy Thanksgiving.
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Don't ask. I've learned this about women. Don't put them on the spot and say "so.. uhm, if you're free Saturday night I'd love to take you out to dinner". It sounds so antiquated and wack. Instead, just be assertive (which isn't the same as aggressive) and flat out say "I'm going to pick you up Saturday cause there's a seafood place in NW that's awesome, so be ready around 8 ok?" Just talk like the date is already in place, don't be some corn ball Mr Rogers about it because west coast women aren't into that old fashioned war era chivalry anymore. Treat em like a friend, like an equal, not some porcelain dove that needs endless finesse.
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It would probably help to not have a buckled ass grill.

A giant cock probably wouldn't hurt either.

And maybe a lamborghini.

Stock and bonds.

Prada.
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What I'm about to say might sound like snark, but it is the cold, hard reality of attraction: you're probably not that good looking.

Both men and women would prefer to date really attractive people, and so when these women tell you they wish men would ask them out, they're probably referring specifically to the really attractive men they've had an eye on. Nobody likes being asked out by random unattractive people.

Also, have you ever LOOKED at the available men on OK cupid? Pretty fucking bleak. No wonder women don't respond to the majority of what we receive on there.
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lol you use OK cupid? Scary..
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^Well, I haven't been single in the last 3 years, but when last I was, that was what everyone under 40 was using. All of the other sites at the time were even less appealing/expected you to pay to be disenchanted.
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Let's just chalk it up to the dehumanization brought about by technology, staunch individualism, and unrealistic expectations.

Women no longer think men are necessary to raise a child. Men don't just want to be a sperm donor. The math is pretty simple.
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"Yeah, we all just want to be single moms, cause it's so easy and fun! Damn you men for wanting to be a responsible and active part of your children's lives!" said no woman ever.
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Did I write anything about women wanting to be single parents FWTBT? Did I write that every man wants to play an active role in raising their children? Nope.

Care to put some real thought into your next response? I doubt it.
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Another reader of I,A who can't get a date. Stunning.
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I would recommend asking women to meet for coffee during a weekend afternoon. No pressure for either one
of you. No beer goggles.

PS you sound normal enough- don't listen to the snarkers.
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Have you tried dating fat chicks? A couple pots of fondue and some white russians and you should be up in there in no time.
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It's simple: you are asking out of your own league. Figure out what women are in your league and ask them. If you don't know what your league is, find some women who will give you an honest answer and ask them to tell you.

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