Anonymous Feb 3, 2014 at 8:08 am

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Newflash: Portland isn't like the town you moved here from. Nobody HAS to enter into a relationship with you so stop trying to shame people into it. There is nothing wrong or childish about casual sex or dating. This idea that people need to "man up" and enter into a long term monogamous relationship makes you seem like a prudish midwesterner.

Just because someone dates you doesn't mean they have to commit to you. Read that last line over and over until it sinks in. How about opening some honest dialogue with the guy about what you're looking for instead of assuming things then blowing up on him when you don't get your way?

Casual relationships are no more childish than marriages, and your whole self-centered manhating rant is a good indicator why no guy wants to lock it down with you.
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My takeaway: it's childshish to be fEcking stupid, and the rest of us should have our lives "figure out".
You...do want people to understand you, right?
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I bought some ExtenZe this weekend and grew up quickly.
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The modern woman likes to have options just like the modern man. This makes it difficult for committed relationships to thrive. Just know that when you finally do end up in a committed relationship, you weren't his first choice and he probably isn't yours either. That's TRUE love bitches.
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Try dating women. You won't find that they're any better, but you will be a little less sexist in your ranting once you realize that LOTS of people are only looking for casual relationships at any given time. Not just men.
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In the spirit of equality, might I point out that women can also be pretty flaky and indecisive.

It's important to note that the individuality stressed so strongly in our society is not at all congruent with committed/meaningful relationships.

Get used to being alone, I have.
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"Me = Desperate" would have saved you a ton of time.
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In this thread: a bunch of armchair polygamists who just read "The Ethical Slut"
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This sounds familiar. I think it was on this very page that I last heard this complaint.

What did you do to cause him to think that "casual" was even an option? Did you have sex on the first date? That's how casual relationships start!
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Some men in this town are slightly grown up children with some issues. I agree with you anon, but YOU need to set the rules
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Why do you keep having casual sex with guys who just want casual sex?
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"Some men in this town are slightly grown up children with some issues."

Again, coming from the old guy with with a topless, flexing selfie on LoveLab, this criticism seems a bit hypocritical.
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Maybe your vagina stinks?
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We have had five dates and yet you haven't pledged your life and income to pleasing me.
I have dated this girl (and her like minded friends.) She gives it up day two while explaining how she never acts like this. It seems great then she throwing fits by the fourth date because I ignored her plans for children. Then the admission I am just like all the guys.
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OK single woman...I can help you out. Would you come over to my apartment for a full body rub with a happy ending? How 'bout some classic naked "spooning"? No questions asked and I won't promise you a relationship...Call me!!
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I've had the exact same experience with straight women in this town. Fine with casual, not willing to commit. Portland is a town full of childish, awkward flakes. Get used to it. At least there's great food and bike lanes everywhere!
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My stalker is back! How ya been? And no, it is not hypocritical. Perhaps you should find out the meaning of the word. And quit looking at my profile creeper
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Creating an account to troll someone is not particularly mature either. You mad bro?
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In answer to somebody else up there: sex on the first date is just as likely as not to lead to years and years of happy fucking. Can't make rules about this shit.
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Maybe, just maybe, it's just you.
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I've done this. 100% of the time it was because the girls ass was too big. I'd thought that I could deal with it, and never really got a good look at it. Then after the 2nd or 3rd time we slept together, I'd get a full look (face it, you girls are good at hiding fat asses). After that I wasn't attracted to them, so I used some lame excuse like "I'm not ready for a relationship". I was ready, I just wasn't ready to settle for someone whose body I wasn't attracted to.
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Not all men are bad you do realize that right? A lot maybe but not all.
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Girls are dick teasing stupidheads. There you have it.
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I agree with frankieb; maybe (almost certainly) it's you, not them.

Perhaps they aren't all immature, stupid losers. Maybe, just maybe, they scent your dead-rat-in-a-dumpster-like desperation to lock them into a "commitment" and are understandably repulsed.

Especially considering they just may not be that into you. Perhaps partly because you view/treat every experience together as a necessary if tedious step towards the "grown-up RELATIONSHIP" you aspire to rather than as spending time with them in the moment because you enjoy their company.

I mean, "4 or 5 dates" and you demand a commitment? Out of people past the age of 18 or so? Most men (and women) in their "mid to late '30s" tend to consider such a rush to forever one-ness a bit stalkery and a huge red flag...they (and presumably you) aren't hormone-dazed, love-struck teenagers anymore, ready to declare their blind, eternal love after a few dates or the first fuck.

I think you are the one who needs to grow up. Or start seeking out others who, like yourself, are intentionally seeking a life partner (internet dating, open declaration of your intentions up front, join a church singles' group, etc...)

Good luck (and I mean it; try another strategy and stop blaming the unwitting men who decline to step into your poorly camouflaged trap).

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