If you're talking OKCupid, those are against the photo guidelines and you can report them.

If you're talking Plenty of Fish, you've given up hope and it doesn't matter what they look like anyway.

Anon has obviously never been a woman on the internet

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Here is an experiment for anon to try: find some pics of an attractive woman and make a fake profile using those pics. See what you get. Then reconsider.

So glad I've never used internet dating sites. All I hear are horror stories, people showing up 10 years older and 50 lbs fatter, etc. Learning to approach women in real life without being a socially awkward hot mess should be your first goal in the dating game. Not e-shopping for a date.

None of my pics are "sans the member" if you know what I'm sayin....

@assisse There are horror stories, but there are success stories and mostly non-stories.

The nice thing about online dating is that it at least can give you a crash course in a total stranger beyond solely what they look like. Rather than harassing a total stranger in-person based solely on their looks, I can at least get a minor sense of some things they like or what they like to do as well as give them the option of simply not responding without having to make awkward small talk.


Serious talk re: photos. You should either leave photos out of online dating photos or you should put photos of yourself. It's really shitty that there are so many assholes that send dumb, sexually aggressive messages to women, but that doesn't change the fact that physical attraction does matter in dating. If you judge others based on their appearance (and unless you are the absolute greatest person in the world, you do to some extent), then you should be granting others the courtesy of being able to do the same. This is not an excuse or a defense of the assholes, only a statement that they are an unfortunate reality and that you should be prepared to deal with them when you create an online dating account.

What's terrible is when they post a photo of a sunset, I *love* sunsets, and during the first date they let slip that it was really a photo of a sunrise. I hate sunrises.

> Rather than harassing a total stranger in-person based solely on their looks,

So now talking to a woman is harassment? Got it.

Fake, missing, and misleading photos definitely suck, but what I really hate is when people keep saying "I love life" and "Isn't life great?"

It's so fucking cheesy. That and when they write, "I never have a bad day" or "I'm always happy."

Well, let me come over and put your cat in the microwave, then tell me how happy you are. It's amazing what kind of bullshit people spout when writing about themselves.

@assisse Not always, but not every interaction with a stranger hitting on you is a welcome or pleasant one.

Amen. I don't give a shit what your car looks like, what Mt Hood looks like or what a fucking sunset looks like. Post a current, clear picture of you (maybe three). Otherwise you are creepy.

I hope you realize what you're getting into Aestro. Looks like assisse is ready to rumble yet again.

Right now, millions of half-powered and misfiring neurons are going crazy in that gelatinous mass he calls a brain. Those underdeveloped neurons are warning him that someone has dared to debate and/or contradict one of his ridiculous statements.

From there, his ego starts boiling over, compulsively forcing him to type out another msg reminding/intimidating you into recognizing how right he is.

Note: Anyone with half a brain sees through his pathetic attempt to prove himself right and points out how much he has twisted their words and/or completely misinterpreted their point(s).

At this point, he will continue drawing on a ever shrinking supply of rational thoughts and start spitting out illogical poppycock to back up his previous grossly erroneous statements.

This will continue to spiral downward until assisse's perceived threat stops commenting, or until the comments section is closed.

Thus concludes the inner-workings of assisse's sad, self-aggrandizing, and meglomaniacal mind.

@Aestro Yes, and when the woman shows signs of disinterest that's when you stop talking to her and move on. What you're attempting to do is vilify the age old act of talking to a woman as 'creepy' and harassment (no doubt ingrained in your head from all the workplace harassment videos that have been crammed down your throat), but in reality our species would come to a grinding halt if all men suddenly became too timid to interact with women. It's the chief complaint I hear from women here, that guys in Portland are pussies. Beta males are eager to declare any guy who approaches a woman as rapey, creepy, harassing, etc.

That's why you internet date, and I don't.

Rick: <3

They don't post a picture because they think they're ugly. Regardless of whether they really are or are not ugly: pass on them anyway. Their lack of self confidence is definitely a red flag.

I agree. I think it's easier to not post a picture under the guise of "creepy guys will stalk me, I'm so desirable!" instead of the truth which is "omg if someone from work sees I'm on here doing my best duck face cause I want the D I'm gonna be sooooo embarrassed :/"

That's why I always file a complaint for harassment when a beautiful girl comes and tries to approach me in a friendly flirty manner, she must be after my cowboy boots. You know, keeping it in the safe side. Specially when I'm close to Canada, those guys are super-aggro.