Iā€™m a 22-year-old straight cis woman. I was raised Unitarian and went through years of the OWL sex ed program growing up. So, my sex education has been very liberal and very thorough. Iā€™ve been taught that size doesnā€™t matter, and I know itā€™s because only the first two inches of the vagina have concentrated nerve ending, etc., etc. Despite being taught that size doesnā€™t matter, some of my experiences have left me wondering. Is it possible that size matters for some vaginas more than others?

I was in a two-year relationship with a man who was very well-endowed and particularly girthy, more so than any other man Iā€™d been with before him. Iā€™d been sexually active for four years and had several different partners before meeting him. But I never had an orgasm during sex until I met him. That relationship unfortunately ended a few months ago. About...

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...a week ago I felt okay enough to try getting back up on the horse. I went on a date with this super-hot, good-looking, well-muscled, really nice, fun guy and we ended up having sex. His dick was average in length but was very skinnyā€”much skinnier than my ex-boyfriend. I barely even felt it go in. I barely felt anything. I was not stimulated at all. I was actually waiting for him to put it in when I realized, to my horror, that he was, in fact, already in. It was so dissatisfying that I left immediately after. I did, of course, make up a plausible excuse to leave because I didn't want him to feel bad about his body or his (lack of) abilities in bed.

What gives? I thought size wasnā€™t supposed to matter?

Also, this might be relevant: the way that Iā€™m able to orgasm, both during sex and when I masturbate, requires a lot of pressure, particularly on my g-spot with simultaneous clit stimulation. Getting eaten out does nothing for me (which Iā€™ve always been frustrated and confused by after looking up statistics that most women can only come from oral but I canā€™t) and Iā€™m pretty sure the reason is because tongues are soft and canā€™t apply the necessary amount of pressure I need to come. So maybe skinny dicks canā€™t either? Is it possible that my vagina is picky and needs girthy penises in order to come, even though that contradicts what I learned in OWL about size not mattering? This guy has asked to see me again, but the sex was so dissatisfying that I have been pretending to be really busy this week to avoid seeing him, which I feel really guilty for, since he was really nice and very attractive.

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We say size doesn't matter... but that's a lie.

Which is not to say bigger is better. Or always better. A dick can be too bigā€”I've received scores letters over the years from guys who were desperate to make their dicks smaller, cursed as they were with dicks too big to suck and too big to fuck. (Sadly there are no "natural male dehancement" pills for sale online, no effective penis-shortening/de-girthing surgeries.) Some people straight-up prefer small dicks; some guys even get off of the "humiliation" of having small dicks. It takes all kind.

And you need the girthy kind. Not all women do; his dick might be just the thing for a woman who, for example, gets off on the grind against the glans of her clit. The lower portion of his taught rectus abdominis grinding against her clit and labia might be all it takes to get her off. But you need that filled up feelingā€”and the reason isn't really a mystery...

The glans is connected to the body or shaft of the internal clitoris, which is made up of two corpora cavernosa. When erect, the corpora cavernosa encompass the vagina on either side, as if they were wrapping around it giving it a big hug! The corpus cavernosum also extends further, bifurcating again to form the two crura. These two legs extend up to 9cm, pointing toward the thighs when at rest, and stretching back toward the spine when erect. To picture them at rest, imagine the crura as a wishbone, coming together at the body of the clitoris where they attach to the pubic symphysis. Near each of the crura on either side of the vaginal opening are the clitoral vestibules. These are internally under the labia majora. When they become engorged with blood they actually cuff the vaginal opening causing the vulva to expand outward. Get these puppies excited, and youā€™ve got a hungrier, tighter-feeling vaginal opening in which to explore!

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