My boyfriend and I have been together for about seven years and have an absolutely wonderful relationship. We have the same values, interests, and have a deep and understanding connection. Our sex is earth-shatteringly greatāwe like doing the same things and with the same frequency. Basically the relationship is ideal for both of us and we make each other very happy. The only drawback is that I am 50 and he is 30. This did not worry us at the beginning because it started as a short fling, but it didnāt take long for us to fall in love. My biggest issue is thinking about the future and how our relationship might evolve. Iām very fit and youthful with very long-lived, healthy family genes. People guess us at being about 10-12 yrs apart. But I worry about him being 55 one day and not wanting to fuck my 75-year-old ass....
Iāll admit that I donāt want to start over at my age, and I know heād find someone new in time. So, thereās certainly some fear there on my part. We are so in love that itās hard to see being apart. Breaking up for no other reason that what the future āmightā bring seems foolish. Should we just live for the present or is some long term realism too hard to ignore?
Love Across Time Endures
Take yes for an answer.
Stop worrying about how you're going feel a quarter of a century from now.
Things that are important to you at 50ālike having your ass fucked on the regularāmay not be so important to you at 75.
Your boyfriend could predecease you and you could wind up spending your final years aloneāor, hey, you could die together in a fire or a car wreck or a plane crash or chariot fisting scene gone tragically wrong. We Catholics call that, "Looking on the bright side."
Your boyfriend could be done with sex at 50āa chronic medical condition or anti-depressants or carbs could crater his libidoāand you could be the one banging hot fuckbuddies on the side.
Watch this movie:
Listen to James Baldwin:
Love him and let him love you. Do you think anything else under heaven really matters?