I am sexually aroused by daddy/daughter role-play. I have no experience with it, but for many years have been extremely turned on by the idea of having sex with a man who pretends to be my father. I have been talking to a man online about this and our conversations are getting explicit. In the back of my mind I'm worried that he may be actually be into children. He has a daughter. Should I be worried that he fantasizes about her? Or actually abuses her?

Gross In Real Life

You have a father, presumably. Do you want to fuck your dad?—Dan

No, I don't want to fuck my actual dad. But I'm assuming that my fantasy comes from craving attention from my father who left when I was four. I'm overthinking things then?—GIRL

You might be, GIRL.

You might also wanna extend the same benefit of the doubt to your new online friend/potential role-play "daddy" that clearly want extended to yourself, GIRL. You’re into daddy/daughter role play, you have a father, you don’t want to fuck your actual dad. He’s into daddy/daughter role-play, he has a daughter, he doesn’t want to fuck his actual daughter. Most people with incest fantasies have no desire to fuck their family members. But if you get the impression he's abusing his daughter, GIRL, then don't fuck him ever and report him to the authorities immediately.

I've heard from plenty of other people whose sexual fantasies revolved around being victimized-for-pretend, GIRL, who viewed with suspicion those whose sexual fantasizes revolved around being victimizers-for-pretend. The subs/bottoms know their fantasies were just fantasies but they worried their counterparts fantasies were something darker. Vulnerability informs this concern, of course; you don't want to discover it's not just a fantasy for your Dom/top/daddy after you're helpless or involved. So the bar is and should be higher for Doms/sadists/daddies. Bottoms need to do their due diligence—talk at length, check references, establish trust. But if do-me-harm fantasies can be harmless fantasies, GIRL and other bottoms, the same holds true for do-you-harm fantasies.—Dan