Dan what has happened to you? You don't see any harm in tying up a sub and then waiting to see what a perspective other Dom thinks about having his way with her and then inviting him over to do so? What about the sub? You don't think that this person should have a say in the matter when introducing a third party before they are tied up? Do you really think it's okay for someone to tie up their girlfriend, instagram some dude with a picture of her and then invite him over without the subs pre knowledge or consent ? Hopefully I am totally misunderstanding you.