hey, NOTM - what makes you think your married boyfriend would be faithful to you? for that matter, what makes you think he's being loyal to (either of) you now? he could have women all over town acting the part of girlfriend. how would you know? he's obviously willing to lie. and he's willing to bully you, that's a nice thing to have in a boyfriend. i can see why he's such the catch.

look, if you want this creep's baby, no one can stop you. if you want this creep to leave his wife and 'be all happily ever after' with *you* - and nothing you've done so far has effected it - i don't know what will. i hope you're prepared for life as a bitter, angry single mom who failed to leverage a pregnancy to get the upper hand in a situation where she had no power because she gave it up five years ago when she agreed to be in this bullshit relationship.

what makes you think his wife doesn't already know? she could be getting off on it (some cuckold type fetish), so they could *both* be fucking with you, or she could be biding her time and waiting for you to go away. so far, you're the biggest loser here. why do you even want to play this game?

dragging the baby into it is the ultimate douchebag manuever. don't be that person. grow the fuck up, already. he's not leaving her, and he's clearly using you. do you need someone to paint you a sign? holy hell.

I don't think NOTM is reading this, but...

I've been the girlfriend to the married man. You know, the one who promises and promises to leave his wife; you're special; of course he'd never cheat on you, etcetera. Meanwhile, your life floats away while he persists with his wife (and gosh, how is that possible if they're so "unhappy"?).

I have two words of advice: WALK AWAY. Okay three: WALK AWAY IMMEDIATELY. I will forever hate myself for being involved with a married man for years, wasting years of my life, getting involved in the dissolution of a family (or ARE they dissolved?). It can't end well. You either end up with the guy (who ain't a prize) and his issues/children/angry ex, or you won't, in which case you'll have to pick up the pieces on your own. Luckily for me, I ended up without the guy and his offspring.

For NOTM,
Wow, seriously five years! It's sad that your stupid enough to be with him, whats sadder is you have no moral compass and will be raising a child.

I'd say go ahead and tell his wife, and than , Let her divorce him and take him for all that he's got. And if his wife is smart enough, She will do that.

And trust me, The ex-wife of a douchbag like this, I did take him for all he had. And knocked the shit out of the little bitch he was sleeping with.

I was on the other side of the fence for Loud And Clear's problem. In the late 80s I lived in an apartment. It had thin walls. Every night it was a free show ! The couple next door had to be aspiring porn actors ! No normal rutting couple makes THAT MUCH noise !

I never made a single complaint ! That would have ended the free show ! God it was hot.