Surprised at Dan's answer for the masturbatee. Why not just do it anyway, and tell her you are going to do it? What right does your wife have over what you do with your body? Why should he have to lie about an act he did well before meeting her?

She needs to deal, and she needs to learn that he shouldn't have to hide the fact that men (and women) masturbate regardless of how frequent they get laid, or how good the sex is.

It is degrading that men have to sacrifice so much of their salary for a rock that loses value to put on a finger of a woman who will statistically not last in his lifetime.

No I'm reviewing articles and statistics:
http://www.enotalone.com/article/6393.html