Savage Love Nov 4, 2010 at 4:00 am

All in the Family

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I'm a 25 year old female and currently exploring my options of the same ideal. I was 23 when I started taking these sexuality cluster courses that were required and I became addicted with them. I grew up in the similar situation of the two women you are in relations with. I'm Catholic Irish and once I broke it off with my 4 yr. lover, my mother finally outed and said (in a doctors office mind you): I had 4 men before your father.

Right then and their I was stunned. I'm this innocent looking, blonde hair, green eyed daddys girl and hearing those words at the age of 22 was shocking. I thought then and their, start taking classes they definitely wouldn't approve of and essentially I ended up in classes that made me question my own sexuality. After doing durastic things like getting tattoos, I realized it was my own way of saying fuck you, my sexuality is different and was forced as a normality.

To get to your question about telling your parents, it depends on how much you truly give a shit about what your parents think. If you believe that they'll use it against you, I'm sure you can find another thing to punch right back at them. That shouldn't be the reason of telling them though. I'm bisexual. I've recently been able to tell friends and I can hold my own very well, more than most men do. I, like you, haven't told my parent's about it but living in a Portland, OR kind of community hasn't let me stop discovering who I am. If you need approval from family, that's one thing; but if it's something you truly don't need to be happy, then just let it go.

The idea is to fight your battles wisely; if at any cost for your own peace of mind.
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Mackinsky, I do not know how you passed any class without knowing the difference between 'their' and 'there'. Seriously, learn some grammar. It hurts to read what you wrote.
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Ha, I appreciate that. Sorry, it was a quick quip of a comment. My apologies for making your eyes bleed...
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In my defense, I'm pre-med not a lit major...So ya, writing isn't my forte.
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I found yer advice very brave and wow looks like you might be going places in yer life.
Signed,

Someone who likes Exciting Sex and MDs.
S.W.L.E>S&MD's
(aka 67% of Americans)

P.S. Someone prolly had to jack off on their journal.

Or there...on their laptop.

Whats his big sexy story anywoo?
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I can read through the spelling and syntax errors, Mackinsky. What I can not do is understand WHAT THE HELL YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT!!!! Maybe I'm too old to know what a "sexuality cluster class" is, or how/why you would become addicted to them. I don't even understand what "options of the same ideal" could possibly refer to: 23 year old females? I can't imagine what your mother saying she had 4 men before your father in a doctor's office could possibly mean, or how it could have scarred your life so. Are you lesbian, and upset about it, looking at options, or what? Lit majors generally are readers, not writers, by the way, but you need a course in rational thinking and expression, IMHO. You say you're pre-med, but you'll never get a patient to come back for a second consult if they get as little out of your diagnosis as I did. I really can't even imagine what your basic premise was.
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"while our girlfriend's mother is a big ol' bag of crazy: She was a physically abusive nut job who beat her children with a Bible attached to a rope."

Gee, wonder how you landed that girlfriend to complete your threesome, ya think through the slightest hand of manipulation?
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Mackinsky is a new breed of cleverbot.
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YAWN...
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For clarification purposes I wanted to give advice without actually delving into my full history. It's advice for you not my life story, is it not? Sexuality courses are a way of developing your intuition and education on how you should be or encourage you rather on how you want to be. Just because one can't write, doesn't mean one can't articulate what a diagnosis is in person.

The point I was making about my mother was that they formed this habit of living. You were supposed to find that one and once you gave him your virginity, that was it. You were supposed to make it work otherwise. I had no idea of the possibilities of exploration for women. Picture it this way. I was prude and with these courses, I'm not. It's called education no matter the purporse, but it allowed me to discover who I am. I am not a lesbian, but I am bisexual. I may not be able to verbalize my thoughts thoroughly through a computer, but I am however, not afraid to state what I want and how others like myself, feel.

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