You folks are morons, and gay people in training. Do yourselves and if you have children a favor. Just get divorced, and be single, and don't put everyone through it, just because you didn't sew your wild oats back in college. Don't any of you know the obvious? Only in Portland where the majority seem to treat one another like those fleshlights mentioned, would give you such crap advice. There are consequences to all actions people. When you look at "successful" swingers, they are usually in their sixties, married for almost forty years, and are bored to tears sexually, but both parties financially comfortable. If you don't have that time under your belt, well I've never seen people make it, at least ones who are honest with one another.