Kaylah Allen

I’m a single dad who’s a minority (POC), and I’ve noticed a few double standards in the workplace. Whenever I have to adjust my schedule due to my kids’ school, events, or illnesses, there’s always questioning, suggestions of alternatives, and sighs or groans when it’s finally approved. Conversely, management offers single moms the option to change their schedules to “make it easier.” Then there are the lunchroom conversations about “how hard it must be” to be a single mom, and how “you should be proud” for being there for your kid. I never get any kudos for being a single dad, even though I have my kids 75 percent of the time. I also got pushback from the management when I let my beard grow: “Looking a little sloppy there.” “Gonna shave anytime soon?” Funny thing is, when the loudmouth white guy grew his beard, it was made into an office game. “Let’s see how long before he shaves!” “I give him six months!” At every meeting, we all had to get an update on the white guy’s beard. Me? The dark guy in the office growing his beard? Nothing but suspicious looks and rude comments. I can’t win for losing.—Anonymous