Please don't confuse critisism of your blog as an attack upon feminism itself.
You seem nice enough, and 'true of heart'.
The goal is constructive critisism, though I realize I can sound harsh, for my own part.
@tk I definitely recommend getting it at a sale price. It is super fun, but it's not something you'll be playing forever.
Yay Barbara! I'm happy you keep writing this column and making great comedy. Don't let the haters (whether they be in comment threads, in insane emails or confusingly passionate facebook posts) get you down.
Barbara, you can take this as patronizing trolling, but my sincere goal is constructive. I've seen your standup, and you definitely have the raw materials to succeed, but your writing here is problematic.
1. You recast every interaction with an idiot into Babs Takes On Patriarchy. Being simplistic makes for boring reading and insults the intelligence of your audience.
2. Too often you just artlessly call bullshit on something. Hectoring may provide you catharsis, but it doesn't do much for us. The challenge we're here to see you rise to is finding new/creative/funny ways to call bullshit.
I used the word "artlessly" deliberately. Art is about communicating creatively towards some purpose. Simply telling people what they should think is not art and as you've seen, people really resist it.
That's because people's strongest beliefs are the ones they form themselves, and we're hard-wired to defend our core beliefs, no matter how ridiculous they may be. Our mental defenses are formidable, as they don't readily yield to facts or logic.
That means the artist's challenge is a benign manipulation: how do you use your art to get people to adopt new beliefs, but think they arrived at them independently? The best artists don't frontally assault our defenses, because they know they can't win. Instead, they sneak past them. They effect change in us by a variety of methods, e.g. surprise, subtlety and subterfuge ("we're just here to get a few laughs"). Effective art isn't a battering ram, it's a Trojan Horse.
3. Every week after you build up your straw man and kick it in the straw cock, you heartily congratulate yourself for your bravery, ideals and pluck. Knock it off. If you're doing your job as a writer correctly, you can trust your audience to glean values and give credit where and when it's due.
I'll bet if you had made the dog look like a Pug, Joneser would have been all over them.
The staff was jabbering?. In non english gobbledygook? Did the oompa loompas not assemble when you snapped your thumb against your index finger?
I think that some people don't like your blog here because you take overly simplified stances on topics that are very near and dear and important to some folks, and your wishy-washy approach, especially as someone who hasn't first hand experienced some of the things you've covered, makes people feel like you're writing about it to glorify yourself and bad puns rather than offering a true look at these topics.
Your writings are awfully short and written like you churned them out an hour before they were due. A weekly column is hard work, surely, but there's a level of care that must be taken, out of respect to yourself and others, namely those you're attempting to speak for without, I'm assuming, actually asking those people how they feel about what they experienced.
I'm a fan of yours. I've seen you perform, and it never not makes me laugh. But this column... makes me feel awkward. Please don't discount everyone who's not a fan of this column as a misogynist asshole. There are folks who do just hate feminists, but those who dislike this column seem to have a problem with you as a writer, not you as a feminist. Not saying that's not harsh, but it's not the same as being hated for having a belief.
.Montego baby why don't we go
Jamaica off the Florida Keys
There's a place called Kokomo
That's where you wanna go to get away from it all
Bodies in the sand
Tropical drink melting in your hand
We'll be falling in love
To the rhythm of a steel drum band
Down in Kokomo
Aruba, Jamaica ooo I wanna take you
To Bermuda, Bahama come on pretty mama
Key Largo, Montego baby why don't we go
Down to Kokomo
We'll get there fast
And then we'll take it slow
That's where we wanna go
Way down to Kokomo
To Martinique, that Monserrat mystique
We'll put out to sea
And we'll perfect our chemistry
Maybe he's the same guy I'm into, does he have a mustache?
Barbara Holm writes good things that I like to read, and trolls can eat it.
@Graham: u lyk me dont u
Barbara has had a fair amount of vitriol spouted her direction since she has started writing here. It's not hard to think a group of people hate you if they insult you week in and week out for some dumbfuck reason like Graham's. This might be the first time that she's posted something where she wasn't completely lambasted by a small group of commenters on here. So yeah, you are a bunch of dicks.
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Gee Your Honor: wanna find out what it *really* feels like to be a lightning rod? I'll show 'ya!
@Todd: u r 2 slo
I just checked your last seven columns and didn't find the word "hate" in the comments, except when used by people talking about all the "haters" who comment.
(Well, there *was* iceprez saying he hates pretty much everyone.)
You write for the snarkiest paper in town, and some people make fun of you.
Anyway, you're on course to be mentioned in the letters column for the third week in a row, so that's something. Best of luck with "Hategate."
Because of my intense love of veracity, I checked on the comments section of all of Ms Holm's posts (this actually goes really quick if you know all the browser keyboard shortcuts, maybe took me five minutes). At no point did anyone in the comments of any of her columns actually say that they hate her. I could be wrong about this, and willingly accept the fact checking of my fact checking. Maybe these comments about hating her happened elsewhere?
The closest anyone came was something like, "I really hope that we can make her hate herself". But I did learn that Ms Holm says that *she* hates something on average of about twice per column.
The reason that I did this is not because I hate women, or feminism or Ms Holm (quite the opposite). It's because I really find the core messaging in these columns to be weak and I want them to be better. If statements in an argument can be so easily disproven, it casts the general argument (one that I whole-heartedly agree with) in a negative light.
"C'mon people, trolling others with snarky comments is never okay. It's a form of bullying that ... oh, it's cocktail hour. Time to go pick a fight at the local tavern. Good thing I'm a woman, because if I were a man and started yelling at the nearest asshole running his mouth, I might get my ass beat."
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