Yeah, I had my first kid right after turning 19 and I only ever wanted one biological child so I wanted to get fixed. Even though I was a singe mother on welfare they refused to do it until I was 27 (or they add your age plus kids). I was married with one more kid and was lucky my husband was 2 years older than me. We went in to get him fixed and did not tell the "good doc that my first kid was not my husband's or it would not have counted towards his age and my husband was just turning 24 so we spent 2 hours in front of a male doctor who kept asking why I couldn't just take this or that birth control. I brought up the failure rates and how neither of us ever want another bio child and that adoption is always an option. I told him I am against any birth control that isn't permanent. I'd rather not die from a stroke or even risk it when I could just be fixed. (there are a LOT of strokes in my family). I also brought up the fact that if I had another child, my marriage would fail (it barely survived kid #2!), all of my kids would suffer because he forced me to have another child by not just fixing my husband. He tried to bring up how he's a good christian and how he's talked with god about how he feels about birth control (abortion was in the mix somewhere). In the end I asked him how god would feel about him tearing up a family and told him my husband would not be getting any sex until he was clipped and my husband agreed. My husband was fixed. I have a friend who is one year older than me and has at least 7 kids! She wanted to be fixed about 4 kids ago and she is stuck with a guy who doesn't love her and sub par living conditions because she can't care for them all on her own.
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