It is so much more complicated than someone being nice. It's NOT over-sensi or rude to not like when someone treats you differently because of your perceived gender or size or disability. It is quite frankly exhausting, and difficult. Calling the writer out on this post for being an asshole is fucking dismissive of her, guess what, real fucking feelings.
And sometimes what would be nice, is if people wouldn't choose condescending acts as their outlets of kindness. There are a lot of other ways to be nice to a person that doesn't make them feel weird. Or gender them. Or make them suddenly body-aware. That is not your job. Can we all assume everyone can take care of themselves, and acknowledge that making that assumption is what is goddamn nice.
I grew up in Portland. I love my NE community. I love that nearly every person I pass on the street will lift their gaze to find my eyes, smile, and trade a quick How's It Goin, with me. That feels nice. And that is the only kind of niceness we need from strangers in passing.
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