http://www.portlandmercury.com/IAnonymousBlog/archives/2013/02/20/commitment-shaming-aka-i-just-wanted-some-play Comments On: Commitment Shaming, AKA "I just wanted some play." by Anonymous en-us Copyright 2013 Portland Mercury. All rights reserved. This RSS file is offered to individuals, Portland Mercury readers, and non-commercial organizations only. Any commercial websites wishing to use this RSS file, please contact Portland Mercury. webmaster@portlandmercury.com (Portland Mercury Webmaster) Sun, 19 May 2013 00:00:01 -0700 Sun, 19 May 2013 23:15:00 -0700 Foundation http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss
My name is Tiram i am single woman, looking for
honest and caring friend for a serious relationships,
and i came across and became interesting in you,
and i will like you to reply
with Email address (tiram_makuza@yahoo.co.uk)
so that i can send you my photos and give you some
details about my self, waiting to read from you,

Yours New Friend TIRAM
Posted by tirambaby77]]> Mon, 25 Feb 2013 02:28:11 -0800 Portland Mercury
Um, yes, it IS. Same way it is HIS/THEIRS to clarify that they just want to fuck and not "date"/commit to anything beyond that.

Like the woman (or man) who bitches that the man (or woman/partner of whatever sex) isn't getting her off but fails to TELL and/or SHOW him how to do it, the woman who fails to communicate her expectations from the relationship clearly and then is pissed when the man doesn't magically understand them is blaming HIM for something SHE failed to take responsibility for.

If you clearly communicate your expectations/needs and he disregards them, THEN you have a right to be pissed.

Just one woman's opinion.
Posted by Raven333]]> Sun, 24 Feb 2013 11:44:41 -0800 Portland Mercury
Clifton. Clifton it is.
Posted by buddy]]> Sat, 23 Feb 2013 18:34:27 -0800 Portland Mercury Posted by Emily Waterpony]]> Sat, 23 Feb 2013 09:32:41 -0800 Portland Mercury and @Doogie, not sure if you're body shaming comment was tongue in cheek, but thanks for bringing it up. I have a beautiful body personally, and yes. it is fat. Does that preclude me from respect? Sex? hmmmmm....
Posted by Emily Waterpony]]> Sat, 23 Feb 2013 08:54:03 -0800 Portland Mercury
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Ok, I don't have a "nickname". I simply requested that I be addressed by my actually name if someone's going to attempt to besmirch my character. Especially this being Black History month, I feel that I'm owed THAT much respect at least.
Posted by DamosA]]> Fri, 22 Feb 2013 22:42:24 -0800 Portland Mercury Posted by SugarSpill]]> Fri, 22 Feb 2013 17:20:05 -0800 Portland Mercury
What. A. Douche.......
Posted by buddy]]> Fri, 22 Feb 2013 16:38:23 -0800 Portland Mercury
My place or yours?

Also, are you fat?
Posted by Doogie]]> Fri, 22 Feb 2013 12:33:06 -0800 Portland Mercury Posted by ill paxton]]> Fri, 22 Feb 2013 12:07:53 -0800 Portland Mercury Posted by arenit]]> Fri, 22 Feb 2013 10:24:44 -0800 Portland Mercury @arenit, can you please enlighten the rest of us Portland born-lifers what else "Portland in 2013" is like. Because I'm curious about Kanas in 1975.. I mean, I thought at least my folks moved here about that time, and they were feelin' themselves out before settlin' here. Maybe you meant that this ain't Utah, buddy.

Honestly though, perhaps it is true woman may speak in riddles when they've been programmed to hide their true feelings.. but I think what Emily is talkin' about sounds more like an issue of how peope define their varietal attachment of sexual relation, and being an honest communicator of that. I am quite sure many people, men and woman alike, have trouble expressing themselves honestly through verbal communication.. and what I see here is an issue of verbalized expression in relationship desires and it's values attached.
Even further, I commonly hear woman around town complain of the issues with "Portland men" and their inabilities to be clear/honest with a woman about what they want, or how these guys can't even seem to hit on a woman effectively. I'm not sure whether this topic is about how men lack the confidence to develop a (non-commited, in Emily's case) relationship, their obsession with blindly gettin' their willies wet, or whether we are leading into an issue of communication errors between partners.
Either way, I blame timing and self-love. Learn to focus on loving yourself and by the time you're busy not worrying about these weiners, you will likely have someone biting at your heels over your physical love. If you're unsure whether or not to persue that, just hold your breath and listen to what your instincts tell you to do.
Posted by YouDontKnowMe]]> Fri, 22 Feb 2013 02:26:28 -0800 Portland Mercury
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Ok since you've taken it upon yourself to make things personal, let me set you straight here. First off, my name is DAMOS, not dude, so I'd appreciate it if you'd address me in a proper manner next time. Secondly, I have just as much a right to be here as any/every one else, so for you to make the asinine comment that I "have no place here" is suspect at best and racist at worst. Thirdly, I find it mildly humorous that you dare to speculate on my life and what I've got going on. Since I have a big enough dick, there's no need for me to brag or tout. So 'ill just let you continue to speculate upon what YOU THINK I do in MY life. At least it gives you something to do, eh?
Posted by DamosA]]> Fri, 22 Feb 2013 01:56:18 -0800 Portland Mercury
also, @Munch whether it is "I, Jessica" or "I, PDX Butthole".. allow the woman to address further issues related to her post, you thread Nazi. Swallow your English degree (or spit it out in front of a bathroom mirror, as your character reveals) and incite the woman with your bed-cred. If you have any.
Posted by YouDontKnowMe]]> Fri, 22 Feb 2013 01:43:20 -0800 Portland Mercury Posted by sagging flint]]> Thu, 21 Feb 2013 18:29:43 -0800 Portland Mercury
@arenit. Good points.


@16 right on.


@Emily, what you trying to do is validate a front. That's all. Some people bite others not. I've been on both sides of this. Best to quit it if the hittin it part gets complicated....
Posted by buddy]]> Thu, 21 Feb 2013 18:05:31 -0800 Portland Mercury
this is I Anonymous, not I, Emily. You're not suppose to claim your own rant, sweets. that's why there is a middle finger with the word "Anonymous" after it.
Posted by Munch]]> Thu, 21 Feb 2013 16:15:15 -0800 Portland Mercury
So then her initial statement of "I can remain unattached" isn't true after all. I think women don't realize how much they talk in riddles and with their clandestine "you should've known what I meant" vocabulary. And at 25 or 30 or whatever age you are you should know by now that we guys say what we mean and mean what we say. There is no delicate layer of poetry and doublespeak. If we hear "I can remain unattached", that is what is stored in our brains. Because we men have a habit of taking people at their word.

I see where you're coming from but you can't talk politics to a cat. A cat is a cat. All it knows is ear rubs and fancy feast. If you want to communicate with a guy, talk to him upfront at the very start. Otherwise you're going to (probably) end up in a cycle of trying to lure guys with the promise of unattached sex then resenting them when the plan to reel them into a relationship fails.

Plus this is Portland in 2013, not Kansas in 1975. People just want to fuck for a while before settling down. We're all going to lose our looks soon enough, might as well enjoy the party while you can.
Posted by arenit]]> Thu, 21 Feb 2013 16:09:22 -0800 Portland Mercury
Some men don’t want to date,
Some men just want to fornicate.
Women should know by now,
That sex doesn’t equal a fucking wedding vow.
Man says to women “I don’t want to get too serious,”
“Too” translates to “maybe”, which makes the women delirious.
Women reads way too into it, and gives man what he wants,
Then women gets mad, because there’s no fucking text message response.

Some women will have sex just to find her mate,
Some women will also lie, just to recreate a second date.
Men should know already,
That sex with a women leaves us emotional and unsteady.
Women says to men “me too, I have a life to live”
“life to live” translates to “I don’t need to respond tomorrow, so there’s nothing to forgive”
Man reads way too much into it, and continues on okcupid,
Then women wonders what she did, and is left with feeling stupid.

(Iceprez this one is for you babe)
The common -fucking –denominator is…
If your fucking on the first date,
Chances are, that dude isn’t your fucking soul mate.
Posted by Stephonknee Wells Kunz]]> Thu, 21 Feb 2013 15:47:37 -0800 Portland Mercury
Ok now, believe it or not, for some guys sex isn't necessarily the no.1 ulterior motive! It's great when ever offered and it wouldn't be turned down most times. HOWEVER, for some guys just hanging out with a lady would do just fine. And if the lady were to offer sex, sober or otherwise, you can usually count on the guy to oblige.

But what seems to happen next, too damned often, is that the lady seems to think something major is going on while the guy is thinking they're just hanging out. Truth is, the lady is actively perusing a guy that probably isn't interested in her on any deeply romantic level anyways. And what happens next is, guy is some how hook-winked into a "relationship" he hadn't really asked for nor worked hard to get. And when guy starts blowing the lady off b/c maybe he'd like to have ONE weekend either to himself or spending time with other friends, HE somehow looks like the asshole. When infact, SHE's the one who goes over to his place every weekend and initiates sex.

If a woman is wanting ONE solid person to be with an noone else, that' totally fine. Many guys want the same. But just keep in mind that many women want no such thing and are all about casual and have done a fine job muddying up the waters.
Posted by DamosA]]> Thu, 21 Feb 2013 15:42:47 -0800 Portland Mercury Posted by The Beans]]> Thu, 21 Feb 2013 15:26:27 -0800 Portland Mercury Posted by Emily Waterpony]]> Thu, 21 Feb 2013 15:19:09 -0800 Portland Mercury
Give it up. Women need dick just as badly. If dick meant nothing then women wouldn't become instantly mega-attached to any guy who stuck his in her.

This woman describes it ever so eloquently: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6IwV5K8j2ww
Posted by arenit]]> Thu, 21 Feb 2013 14:35:26 -0800 Portland Mercury Posted by ill paxton]]> Thu, 21 Feb 2013 14:16:01 -0800 Portland Mercury Posted by arenit]]> Thu, 21 Feb 2013 14:13:37 -0800 Portland Mercury