How to... DATE! AND HAVE SEX! 

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Hooray! You're out of your parents' house! Time to start having sex with people all the time! Or not!

The great thing about dating in college is that you get to do whatever you want—if you're the kind of person who likes hooking up with all sorts of people in all sorts of ways, go for the gold, kid. If you're the kind of person who wants to make lots of friends and never make out with any of them, you got it. If you want to have a boyfriend and make out with other guys, that's an excellent option, just be honest and intentional about it.

Dating in college is all about learning what you want and how you want it. You can build whatever kind of relationships and have whatever kind of (consensual) sex you want, though pretty much the only way to learn what feels right and good is practice, practice, practice (also: fail, fail, fail). But you know what you don't need to learn about yourself? That you're accidentally pregnant! Or that you have chlamydia!

Those are terrible things to learn, which is why, if you're one of those people deciding to rub genitals with other humans, get yourself birth control and get tested for STDs, ASAP. Both Portland State University and Reed College have health centers that provide students STD tests and contraception, along with friendly nurses to ask all dirty-bits questions ("Is my dick too big?" Probably not, just use lube) and big life questions ("Am I dating the right person?" Not if you're not happy).

Those schools and many others also have school-supported groups and counselors to talk with about sexual assault. Portland State Women's Resource Center Assistant Director Jessica Amo advises students to speak out when they think a situation could be leading to assault or abuse. "Be a good wingman," says Amo. "Sometimes people are afraid to say something about what they see happening at a party or in a bad relationship, but being a good friend means it is your business."

Add to that list: Always use birth control. Be more honest. Don't have sex with people you can't talk to. Say no if you want to say no. Go buy lube right now. Make dinner together. Make a move. Talk to your friends about relationships. Know that you deserve to be happy. Dance a lot. Google "urinary tract infection." Don't sext random people. Don't text at all after 2 am. Only date people who positively add to your life. Wash your sheets often. Masturbate more often. Be generous. Be sincere. Speak up.

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