I'm a woman who took until my mid-'20s to figure out how having an orgasm worked for me. The trick is the #1 reason I wish pot was legal: I had to smoke weed to get in the right mental place. It helps me feel psychologically comfortable and it heightens all the right kinds of physical sensations. I know they don't write medical marijuana RXs for anorgasmia, but they should. Your reader might want to give it a try. (Betty Dodson's Sex For One helped me, too!)