We shouldn't have to win a theological argument to secure our civil rights—including the right to civil marriage. But by engaging with religious conservatives on their own terms, by fighting them verse for verse, Matthew is changing minds. His efforts to reason with religious bigots will doubtless result in fewer queer kids being rejected by their families—and that's a good thing. A not so good a thing (and a pet peeve): Matthew conflates "committed" with "monogamous." You can be committed without being monogamous and you can be monogamous without being committed. Serial monogamy, which is the most common form of monogamy, is monogamy minus commitment. There are plenty of examples out there—particularly among gay men—of commitment minus monogamy.