"What if it was a guy pursuing a guy? What then? What if?" Anyway, whether you like it or not, the general attractiveness of the perceived stalker needs to be factored into the discussion. People are superficial. Let's face it -- if the perceived stalker is a model type, they're a lot more likely to get a free pass, "Ah, that's sweet" vs. "Ew gross, what do they want?!"