Man likes porn. Girlfriend gets annoyed that man likes porn. *yawn*

Why is Dan still posting this crap?

Because he's a sex columnist?

Because women keep complaining to him about their boyfriends' porn?

What's interesting to me about this is the way the woman seems to have interpreted his love for porn as a kind of rejection of her and her sexual prowess.

Its actually a really common emotional response in women to porn collections- even the women who object on "moral" grounds are often deep down shamed and insecure about whether the porn makes them inadequate as lovers and as "visual stimuli."

Of course porn is not personal, but I know a lot of women who react to it that way. I'd be interested in Dan's thoughts on how she could address that aspect of her concern- not so much "is what he's doing wrong?" but rather, "why does what he's doing make me feel wrong/inadequate?"

Men look at porn. Women look at porn. It is a private time thing. Like journal-ing or whatever.

I have never felt I was undesirable because my s.o. liked porn. I really think this is a socially conditioned response, i.e. the only value a woman has is her sexual attractiveness, etc..

Ugh.