Don't cheat on him, just leave him. Then you will both be single and there will be no "cheating" involved.

Murder-suicide seems to be the only viable option.

@ El Douche - lovely response. yes, don't try to work it out, don't take any personal responsibility, just leave. oh, and don't worry about the two innocent participants. i'm sure they'll be just fine. fucking brilliant.

@ eric, the two innocent participants sound like they would be a lot better off if she would leave him. I think it was made pretty clear that all that family's home life is, is screaming matches. When my parents finally separated (I was a teen) all I could say was 'fucking finally'.

@ BruceWang - go reread her letter. "screaming matches"? WTF? exaggerate much?

nobody posting here has any idea what that household is like - including myself. i am just pushing back at the notion that walking away is the best response. maybe they have tried therapy, and maybe they do have screaming matches. or maybe this is a woman who is being unreasonable. there are a shitload of possibilities. perhaps walking away would be the best option for all involved. i just find it a bit rich that some of the responders here are so quick to advocate jumping ship without any regard to the dependents.

@ Eric Douchetona - I'm the product of divorce, like virtually everyone else in this country. I survived. So will they.

Moralizing prick.

DTMFA. It'll be best for everyone involved, especially the children. Better to have one mediocre parent than two bad parents.

And she implies that she OFTEN gets home 1.5 hours after she had planned on. Would none of you be frustrated if your spouse left you hanging that long, and did it often?

She didn't say she called to warn him, and she doesn't say she apologized. Is she blameless?

You know, she should sit down and think about how lucky she is not to be a woman in Afghanistan.

@ jaspeers - please go fuck yourself.

since YOU turned out OK, in your opinion, these kids should too? i'm moralizing?

i'm not saying that separation or divorce should not be considered. i just think that you, or anyone else posting here, don't have a fucking clue as to the dynamics of this household. to assume that these people have "screaming matches" based on the content of this woman's letter is reading a lot into it. then to take the stance that she should walk takes a tremendous leap of faith.

Dan's interpretation of the letter seems a bit extreme. I guess we can take her word for it that they guy is really that bad. From the letter, it sounds like she might be a self-involved beeyotch who does things like leave him to take care of the kids while she stays out doing whatever she deems more important.

Spouses can have expectations of each other. It isn't necessarily "treating you like a teenager" to expect you to keep your word. We don't have enough details. Was it a really important dinner? Did you tell him you'd be late? Do you do this twice a week?

Anyway, you leave your spouse because you conclude that the marraige simply can't work, not because you want to fuck other people. She sounds selfish to me.

Whoa, I find myself agreeing with Blabby.

@ eric cantona - Take it easy, lady! Why are you so full of anger? Did you write this letter?

angry? yes.

call it a pet peeve - i just think that kids needs trump just about every inconvenience that parents may face, barring violence and severe emotional distress.