One thing Dan doesn't mention is that based on my calculations, her relationship with this guy started when she was around 15-17 (they were together a half decade and it ended several years ago?). Which means this guy would have been 45-50. There's nothing wrong with May/September relationships (I'm in one myself!) and I don't always think teens, especially teen women, can't make adequate choices around being with someone older (i.e. statutory rape is not always that). But, the combination of the two, plus the fact that this guy is STILL manipalative and creepy, lend credence to her being a young mess. (Though I won't discount that she may just be a bitch.)