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no, i open doors-- but stand out of the way-- for all sexes. it's not a sexual act.

Maybe I am "doing it for myself" (secondary gain) but plenty of people smile and say thank you.

And I bet if you put a lump of coal in your ass, it would turn into a diamond by the time you sauntered across a parking lot.
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This is precisely why I don't hold doors open for women walking into stores right behind me. They often gasp that I would be so calloused toward them as the door I just passed through closes on their face/purse/kid, but I think deep down they appreciate that I've discarded the archaic gender roles which chivalry promotes. This is also why I always make sure I'm the first one on a lifeboat.. last thing you want to do when the ship is sinking is further compound the woman's discomfort with some old fashioned chivalrous nonsense like "ladies first!" that only serves to further demean her. I agree OP, sometimes guys are so selfish with their rapey manners.
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Absolutely, they only do it to check out your ass coming in.

To other girls, it's a nice gesture.
4
Maybe he was being polite, a trait that is in short supply in Portland.
5
Jesus fuck women! We have confused men enough. Give all this petty shit a goddamned rest already.
6
Is this serious? You are offended at someone being nice to you? What the hell is wrong with you? I hope you haven't brought children into the world. Seriously, they will be totally fucked up.

And LMAO at the first comment!!! She probably could produce a diamond in that tight ass.

And to the crazy bitch that wrote this post. Did you let the guy know that he could let go of the door so that you could open it for yourself or did you prance your man hating ass through it without saying a word and thereby accepting the offending offer? I bet you smiled sweetly a walked your silly, petty, crazy ass right on through that door.
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Not only do I always hold open the door for others (regardless of sex), but I let the elderly folk go in ahead of me. It's called good fucking manners. Sheesh...
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Shit, good thing she wasn't in a wheelchair.
9
To quote Dave Chapelle: "Chivalry is dead, and women killed it."
10
If I'm approaching a door and I notice that someone else is close behind me, I flee.
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Wow, have none of the other commenters ever witnessed what the IA was talking about, and how it's different from polite door holding? Holding the door open when the person is half a block away is not polite, and neither is standing in the doorway so that I'm forced to rub up against you in order to get in the building. I've worked in an office before where a few old men were regulars at this. They didn't do it to men, or to older women, but they did enjoy making the younger women rub against their bellies and then be forced by the rules of polite society to thank them for it.

Try a Google image search of passive-aggressive door holding to get an idea, in case you've never noticed it before.
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"passive-aggressive door holding", that's a new one.
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I feel your pain, lady. It's not politeness if it forces someone to walk faster than they wanted to and/or rub against your body to get by.

Here's a handy guide for all of the guys getting offended by this I,A:

Person is less than 10 feet behind you OR is a little farther than that and is obviously going to have issues opening the door themselves = YES, holding the door open is polite and good. Person is across a parking lot and shows no signs of being unable to open a door herself = NO, you're making an awkward and unnecessary gesture that is going to annoy the person.
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@ sagging flint:

John Hughes called -- he wants his ass-diamond joke back. Or at least to be given credit for it.

Matthew Broderick probably deserves a tip of your hat, too.
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While I won't be getting behind the "opening doors is a secret conspiracy for the oppression of women via politeness" theory, I will say that there is a correct way to open a door for someone. The way that actually allows them to use that door without ducking under your arm, for a start.

On the other hand, when people hold doors from way too far away, I like to either slow way the fuck down in hopes that they'll get bored and go in, or else just walk past the door entirely. Why? Well, you can find videos online of people playing the "hold the door from far away and watch them start running towards it" game. The only way to win it as the non-door holding party is to refuse to use the doorway at all.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QpRO39X1rTk
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(My favorite part of the above video is the group of three dudeguys who don't speed up, and who's body language says "Nah bro, I got this.")
17
I wonder if calling the guy out for his behavior would help. A few awkward questions could be just the thing to make this behavior go away.

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