Dear Anon,

I’m going to come at you in the most sentimental way that I know how too. You can’t get mad at the server for not paying explicit attention to your gender splice. You said it yourself “I’ve got big uns” and you said “I get that there’s no way you can tell a butch woman from a trans man, not with all the shit you have to notice and remember.”

You’re probably really beautiful, as most “butch” females are, and your server wanted to recognize you two as specific someones, by calling you ladies. You’re basically getting made at that server for not looking under the table to check your blue print. That’s not really that fair.

Oh, fer fuck's sake! I'm an ally, and a former server, and I'm here to tell you that you are full of shit. If that's how sensitive you are, then go home and seal yourself in a bubble.

You'll be much happier, and so will we!

"Do you humans want another drink?"

WTF do you mean, "tax?"

The real question is how long did it take NPR to start calling you a "he"? I will set my level of liberal indignation accordingly.

I get the frustration of not having something as basic as your own gender identity recognized, but it sounds like the girl you're dating is aware that you're trans, and if she didn't care before, then having a waiter call you a lady is probably not going to change that.

Pretend he said "laddies" and thought you were Scotsmen.

Big tits and a dick huh? There are plenty of dudes like that all over rural America. But they dress like dudes so you don't see many mishaps like this.

You're wearing a dress there chief, you should expect to be taken for a woman. Moron!!!

I bet he also didn't offer a third drink to your tall rabbit friend, Harvey. I mean, it's nearly impossible to tell a butch woman from a non transitioned transman.

I don't think it's PC, but I do miss the days when women were content to be butch.

I would gladly show you the same disrespect I show everybody. I practice equal opportunity hate regardless of race, sex, creed, religious affiliation, or other identifying factors.

Whoever invented the term "slider" should get a punch in the face. Same goes for the fuckfaces who order them...

Oh fuck, this whole gender identity thing is worse than indie rock.

Why can't you politely correct this person, if it really bothers you that much, and is such an offensive and bigoted slip-up? Would that be such a pressing and arduous task to set out on?
They didn't say, 'You two pieces of shit/scumbags/jackoffs want another drink?' thus leading you to believe that physical violence would ensue shortly after any type of attitude adjustment was attempted on your part. And they're at work, where they're presumably wanting to stay for some measure of time to keep food entering their mouths and their lights at home turning on and off.

They probably made a mistake that a lot of people make when they're rushed, dealing with tons of people coming and going all day, and aren't thinking too deeply or philosophically about the interaction they're having with you.

@buddy:

The term came from White Castle, where they pretty much slide right down because of the grease. Unless they are White Castle burgers, they aren't real sliders anyway.

http://www.whitecastle.com/food

If you want to dress and look like a woman, expect to be called a lady. It's that simple, jackass.

Anon obviously has not taken the advanced man classes. It is very masculine to refer to other guys as "ladies." Real men know this. It is time you learned. The more you know...

20% tips are for suckers.
15% is still just fine.

I call all my guy co-workers sweetums and sugar tits. It is with our manly gracious charisma that we let such things roll off our backs and it is why we don't hire women. We love em but so many our quick to offend and make the day a drudgery it's just too big a gamble.