Walk away, cuts all ties and get some serious counseling.

It's always the fucking "sibling"! I say this only because my father (married to my mom since i was 3, I'm 38) Just tried to commit suicide 5/17/2014 due to choices my sister is making.

Unfortunately IA, jail is probably the best place for your brother. It's unfortunate for your mom, but by not kicking him out to regain her freedom, she is condoning his actions. The abuse that she's gone through is why mom has given him so much power within the household, she doesnt want him to hurt her. You mix that with alcohol, an uncontrolled monster is created. If AA is asked of him and he's not ready, the anger will only get worse, which is why jail is the next best thing. Sometimes people who do not want to control their actions, needs someone to control them for them. That's not a bad thing, I wish my sister was in jail!!!! Right now, you're stuck playing the waiting game until he does something so bad that a judge says enough with slapping his hand. The one thing i suggest is run away. Do what i did, just run away. it will only get better or worse, and if it gets worse, trust me, you dont want to be there.

You do want him in jail. I hate to say that, because it is extremely painful to give up on someone you care about, especially family.

Alcoholism wrecks people. It may be that prison ends up also putting him through treatment, and maybe he can recover. It may also be that the damage is already done - severe alcoholism can cause psychosis and other permanent damage. It sounds likely that at this point, the best thing you can do is get him away from the rest of the family where he can no longer hurt anyone else.

Sounds like you can get him away from her by talking to Senior abuse line. It happens all the time; the scenario you speak of, in so many different ways.

You will need to take care of yourself, and hope the situation will improve when you finally have to just walk away from this enabling. Your mom and brother will hate you, but get your mom away from him if you can. She needs to be in someones care, then know your not the one to help her,but the ball will be rolling. Mom needs protection.

Maybe try a couple ways to get your mother away from him, as suggested above.

But then get the heck away from all of them. Cut ties for at least a few years until you can re-engage on your own terms. At that point, don't give them any money or help, don't let them into your life in any meaningful way, or let them become dependent on you.

The situation sounds toxic and you need to extricate yourself.

Jail.

you're seriously asking THESE people for advice?!?!