When I first saw this article I thought, "great... Can't say I am surprised that another Portland musician is a rapist." I don't know why I felt compelled to look up your Facebook, but I was. It also did not surprise me that we know some of the same people. It did not surprise me because my own rapist knows a lot of the same people that I do. He's in a band with one of my best friends, and I had considered him a friend until he took away a piece of who I am, and then discarded me like a piece of garbage.
My own rapist considers himself a feminist, and posts feminist content on social media. My own rapist told me he "can't control himself" when I'm around and that what he did was inevitable because I had been drinking. My own rapist denies that what he did is rape, because I was too drunk to stop it. I needed a friend that night, but he was not a friend to me in the slightest.
The denial and doubt regarding the "legitimacy" of my own rape has caused me to keep this unbearable secret to myself and other trusted friends. It enrages me that he continues on, without guilt. It enrages me that a couple of my closest friends think I'm overreacting. It enrages me that he will probably do this to another woman at some point, and it enrages me that she will also not be believed.
I strongly suggest that you at the very least give the other women you assaulted the acknowledgement that what you did to them was unacceptable. As a survivor, I know that this will not take away their pain, but you do at the very least owe them the decency.
(Johnny Depp/Amber Heard: http://www.portlandmercury.com/one-day-a… / http://www.portlandmercury.com/one-day-a… )
No "hotline" numbers are given, no faux indignation expressed... it's a joke!
Let's recap... according to The Mercury:
Rape: Bad
Domestic Violence: Funny!
My own rapist considers himself a feminist, and posts feminist content on social media. My own rapist told me he "can't control himself" when I'm around and that what he did was inevitable because I had been drinking. My own rapist denies that what he did is rape, because I was too drunk to stop it. I needed a friend that night, but he was not a friend to me in the slightest.
The denial and doubt regarding the "legitimacy" of my own rape has caused me to keep this unbearable secret to myself and other trusted friends. It enrages me that he continues on, without guilt. It enrages me that a couple of my closest friends think I'm overreacting. It enrages me that he will probably do this to another woman at some point, and it enrages me that she will also not be believed.
I strongly suggest that you at the very least give the other women you assaulted the acknowledgement that what you did to them was unacceptable. As a survivor, I know that this will not take away their pain, but you do at the very least owe them the decency.