I feel like by "goals" they mean that you have to want your relationships to actually go somewhere other than a series of one-night stands.

That or just be doing something with your life. I've known people in their 30s that aren't doing much of anything.

Just guessing.... if they say must have goals you can't figure out what kind of goals to have, you probably should look to the next profile.

I think you're stressing about small fries. They're looking for someone who isn't a deadbeat and still has some gusto for the thrills in life. You've accomplished some landmarks in life, good job, not everyone has. It seems to me your presumption is that everyone in their mid-to-upper 40's is a career tracked homeowner. In fact, it blows my mind that you would even question what kind of goals a person in your age group could have. Buying a home, having a kid before it's too late, going back to school to learn something, wanting to travel and see the world, swing, get a tattoo cause you can, getting a time share and never using it so you complain about it at a bbq with your friends, etc. Is that really that hard to fathom? Are you just such an entitled person you can't imagine a person still wanting these things in life in their mid-to-upper 40's? And another thing, why aren't you confident enough to admit your age. "Mid-to-upper 40's" - yeah buddy that means 45-49, who are you kidding, we all know you're 48. My guess is you're not a good fit, these people are looking for something beyond domestication - something you seem relatively proud of. My advise, change your profile to say you're looking for a 20-23 year old, they're the ones that'll worship the fact you bought a home and they'll be enthralled to discuss you're bathtub treatment as they nostalgically relive their suburban upbringing.

You know, goals. Like that secret death-ray for total world domination project in the basement or that quintessential tome on the U.F.O. connection in the Kennedy assassination you've been working on since college.

Seriously, it means no dead-beats need apply, I agree, and also maybe they mean that they want someone who's still excited about something in life and still interested in growing, not an old-before-his-time couch potato with no ambitions beyond wallowing in that rut.

48 is way too young to be content resting on your laurels until death takes you in...what? Maybe 25 yrs. Maybe 50?

It's how we weed out the shiftless. You'll likely be fine-just add something about "giving back" in your profile.

My post wasn't Agro at all, maybe you're just sensitive

My post wasn't Agro at all, maybe you're just sensitive

It's so obvious.... A woman in her 40's looking for a man with "goals" means she likes it in the butt.

Maybe they want more than your average barista douche can give. You didn't have to take it personally.