You need to stay the fuck away from this ransacking, headboard-breaking-diary-reading-controlling asshole. I don't care if he has cancer; all his negative energy and bad karma is probably why he's ill anyway.

You absolutely need to name this man. He is a danger to women.

@tgtb I realize you are a troll, but WTF are you going on about?

Anyone who is a danger to other people needs to be identified and prevented from harming others. Full stop.

If only the white women who used, abused, and murdered their five children (Devonte Hart's so-called "parents") had been stopped when they were clearly identified as abusers, maybe those 5 children would still be alive today.

If only Matt Hickey (in Seattle) had been identified and outed by the women he was raping he could have been stopped and his list of victims been much smaller. Sick that he's only doing three years.

So there are only two examples (of the endless number of horror show stories in this society of people doing grave harm to other people).

I have no preference when it comes to people who need to be safe - anyone causing harm to other people needs to be stopped. So, no, I have no racial gender priority.

I do, however, recognize that white males are the biggest threat in our society - causing the most harm to others. White males in this country commit the most violent crimes, the most domestic abuse, the most molestation and rape of children (boys and girls and women and even other men), the most murders (individual, family, stranger, mass, and spree), and the most acts of domestic terrorism (bombings, etc.).

Does this answer your question or do I need to use smaller word and shorter sentences? Oh and why the fuck do you care?

Wow. Tgtb has a serious pole up his ass.

P.S. I would bet good money IA's abuser does NOT have cancer. Just another control drama. IA did well to get away and should probably find a way to out him in some form or fashion.

Hmmm ... I think Aurelius may be on to something?
I also think that Christina is super racist and super immature and obviously a troll/liar/misinformed ...once she gets out into the world and experiences some of it, she'll see how infantile and destructive hatred is. Its not "progress" to spout evil directed at a specific group of people, it only serves to further divide us and sets us back.
I'm pretty sure you're not a bad person if you don't "name him". Us grown ass women can take care of ourselves, just like you did.
I loved your writing style and encourage you to write more. "Wanted my privacy so I could shame myself without your help" ... brilliant!
I think at some level, a lot of us are abusers ...if we've been abused, we can end up abusing ourselves ... sometimes others ... But you're still you, you're just wounded right now. Wounds heal. Even the deep, gross, festering, maggoty ones.
Hang in there and keep your head high. You can do this and it sounds like you're better off without him. Cut the tie, delete the number ... get ghosty on his ass! Sounds to me like he's getting off light, anyway.... You have NOTHING to feel guilty about. You know you're not a whore or anything else he tried to make you believe in order to gain power and control over you. Love him if you must, but please, love him from afar. You deserve a love that accommodates and forgives. I hope you get that soon. <3