You ever listen to someone talk to someone else they consider they know very well and hear how it sounds? It sounds mean and condescending. It certainly sounds like there are underlying issues or secrets that only the two know. Like the way married couples talk, but even close friends do it too. Too close for comfort. You can hear a certain tone and shorthand that's not there with stranger acquaintances.
I also get uncomfortable with straight male ego and bravado type talk. And if it's about sports, cars, or hunting, I will not have anything to say. I like sports. I used to like it more. And I'm not trying to disparage anyone's passions because I have mine that I'm sure others aren't interested in the way I'm not interested in their's just the same. Actually I'm not passionate about knowledge in anyway.
You ever hear how someone talks to someone else that might have special needs or they think speaks a different language? It's so kind, gracious, and caring.
I know I'd like to talk how I talk to everyone the same. My mom and I talk very shorthand with each other but in front of others we put on a show of politeness and respect. Sometime we don't either. I had an ex girlfriend where there was this kinda elbow in the side, "no, no, no don't do that. Pick that one." Like silent whispers and gestures. It was so annoying.
With written word ot text, I'm more elaborate, detailed, and proper versus how I would talk in person.
Whats the moral and bottom line?
Talk is cheap.