OP: It's going to be okay. Everyone makes their own decisions. Not everyone wants help. Not everyone wants to feel like they are in need of help. I know how hard it is to watch people you care about make choices you wouldn't. Especially when you believe those choices could contribute to missed opportunities or emotional pain.

Part of respecting individuals to make decisions for themselves is recognizing their right to be held accountability for their choices, whether that's in a spirit of celebration or sadness.

The message keeps getting clearer.

ONE. BIG. POT.

Here, let me give you one of my cards. Now if you should want to call me, use this number. That's the old one. If you happen to lose the card, don't worry, I have plenty more.