Okay, y'all need to realize that your bartenders and servers are not your friends. They most likely don't even like you. Bars are places of business, of commerce, where to participate you must ante-up. A tip might buy you a smile and a brief chat of small talk (if it's not busy), but understand, and please respect, that a bartender is held captive to her station (her station being the bar where she is not just hanging out for the fun of it) because she is AT WORK. So please just let her do her job tending the bar because you don't have anything to say a bartender hasn't already heard. You're not interesting. If you were interesting you wouldn't be sitting alone at a bar having to corner people to get them to talk to you. And also, being old and deaf and having the saddest puppy dog eyes doesn't grant anybody license to be an annoying leech.