AS A FEMINIST,I...wish that people like you would stop reading Jezebel & step out into the real world. Whether he's jacking off or not, we are at the point where just looking at another person is "non-consensual". i mean, you could just walk on by & laugh at the dude rubbing one off in his car. i'm honestly surprised that you didn't accuse him of rape.
Hey! We exist in a world with other humans! Strive to change the dialogue & the dynamic, but quit with the bullshit that someone looked at you & now you feel violated. And believe, i have severe PTSD. i had to quit running because of "looks". But you have to learn to adapt. To change what can & should be changed, on a real level. But a man looking at you is not rape. It's not "non-consensual". It's you being in the world. i'm sure that it was uncomfortable. So...
AS A FEMINIST you should have walked right on up & spit on his window or called him out. i'm pretty sure that he would have lost the wood right there, so mission accomplished. Just, find a balance. You can't call shit "non-consensual" but do & say nothing about it. And the privilege? Where the hell did that come from? Is he "coming from a place of privilege" because he has a penis? Or because he's wealthy & can jack off in his car, as opposed to the back alley? What are you even talking about? i can go masturbate anywhere i want. Not because it's some magical privilege, but because i know how to be discrete & i'm a chick so anyone that saw me would probably think it was hot. i don't think any guy would accuse me of being "non-consensual" if i glanced at him as he was walking down the street.

So, YOU weren't violated. You were just a human walking down the street that saw a guy jacking off in his car. That's life, that's the world. That's not some non-consensual, rapey, privilege shit. Save it for the stuff that really matters. That really hurts.