I met you out with friends, and I don't know where you get off calling me a mess. You're not even from here! I told you that I'm in a poly relationship with one partner, and going through a separation/divorce with the spouse and am in a transitional period. I also divulged that I'm looking for peeps to go out with, casual date-ships (this does NOT mean just casual sex) with physically attractive, poly and switchy types who enjoy attending sex-positive/BDSM and poly friendly parties and events fairly often, with possibility for a more longer term, committed relationship. THIS DOES NOT MEAN I'M A MESS! Seriously, I don't know where you transplants get the nerve. This is Poly-Portland you know, and this is how we live. Get over it!—Anonymous