I'm on hiatus while working on a manuscript for a new book. In the meantime, please enjoy these classic Savage Love letters pulled from previous columns. I will be back when the book is finished. —Dan

Originally published February 21, 2008:

Just before I married, I got a CB-2000 male chastity device and gave it to my wife as a joke Xmas present. She had previous mates fool around on her and I wanted to let her know I was serious.

We played with it some and a year later she got me a CB-3000. Soon she was keeping me in it for a week at a time. Now she keeps me in it for a month at a time. While I have adjusted to this, I miss being able to masturbate when I want to. I have tried to talk her into allowing me to be free again and she refuses. It's not that she's afraid I will fool around, but she believes that I'm more attentive, caring, and loving when kept in this condition. Is it becoming more common for wives to keep their husbands in chastity?

Lost Over Cock Kept Erotically Denied

My response after the jump...

No, LOCKED, it's not. Unfortunately, bullshit letters are all too common.

So you bought an expensive male chastity device as a gag gift—those CB-2000s start at $150—because, hey, there's nothing a woman with adultery issues wants more at Christmas than a gag gift that plays on her fears and insecurities. You must be a gas at funerals, LOCKED. And now your wife keeps your dick locked up for a month at a time. Against your will. And you're powerless to do anything about it.


If your wife keeps you in chastity—if you have a wife—it's because being locked up in a CB-3000 turns you on. Like most male chastity fetishists, you find the scenario more exciting if it's something your wife does to you, not something you have to beg the wife to do, but you can't expect the rest of us to play along. If you want to see your fetish discussed in Savage Love, just be honest. Send me a letter that says, "Write about the freaky shit that turns me on!" But don't make up some bullshit scenario.

Oh, and KTBC? You have options besides a castrated dog: Dump the motherfucker you're with, go to the message boards at www.malechastityforum.com, and you'll find guys whose ultimate fantasy is being with a woman so insecure, or so controlling, that she wants to keep his cock under lock and key.