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"The sex is AMAZING. Here's my problem..."?
It really just seems like most of the people who write to Dan - or ANY advice colomn - is just whining over retarded bullshit that they ought to be able to sort out themselves.
How about he asks if he can fuck another girl while his gf watches, since she doesn't have the sex drive to join in? Pick the girl together. Perhaps he could explain his concerns about missing out on adventurous sex to his gf and discuss an open relationship, until he's over his "sexually adventurous phase". Breaking up an eight year relationship without discussing other options is just stupid, unless you're just tired of the person you're with and feel the need to move on..
The advice to EPL was iffy at best. Jennifer's excuse was crap. Didn't want to drag her into their relationship drama? EPL was the cause of it! She tried to use a D/s triad to angle for just one of the primary pair. Jennifer caught on to what was going on and shut it down, because her relationship with Robin is more important to her than having a pet -- and that's all EPL was to her. EPL needs to give up on her and look for someone who's actually available.
Dan's answer to BBP was technically correct, but poorly phrased for someone suffering feelings of inadequacy. I would say instead that variety is stimulating at a physiological level, whether food, lovers, paintings or whatever. Whenever BBP's partner takes that stimulation from imaginary variety and turns it into sex with her, it's a sign of how much he really wants her all the time and just happens to be more stimulated at some times than others.
It sounds bad, but I agree with the advice to Stuck. Not that playing the field is so awesome for everybody, but that he'll get over his curiosity and maybe find a partner who's more sexually compatible. Besides, I expect that he'll just end up rationalizing cheating otherwise.