Dan, why do you presume PH is female? There is nothing in this person's letter to indicate their gender. I guess I'm asking because over many years of reading and being a fan of your column I am trying to reconcile what I perceive as a double standard between you at times being gender neutral (as a columnist) and other times letting your biases as a gay man run with the wolves like Kevin Costner.
The letter writer is female because she states that she is in the first line of her letter: "I'm a woman in my early 30s having sex with a guy in his early 20s."
Then again she doesn't actually state whether she is a cis woman or a trans woman. And this is the Interweb, so we have no way of knowing who any of us actually are-for all we know, Dan Savage could be Omarosa, and Omarosa could be Chaz Bono, and Chaz could be Steve Bannon, and...Ok, Ok, NO ONE can be Steve Bannon.
Uh...where was I?...