How long after a divorce does someone become ā€œemotionally availableā€ for a new relationship?

Someone who initiated a divorceā€”someone who made up their mind, got a lawyer, and filed the paperworkā€”is probably going to be ā€œemotionally availableā€ a little sooner than someone who was blindsided when their spouse ā€œaskedā€ for a divorce. (Itā€™s not really an ā€œask,ā€ since you donā€™t need someoneā€™s permission to divorce them.) But if the person who initiated the divorce was being abused, they may need more time to recover from the marriage than the ā€œblindsidedā€ abuser they left. And if a marriage wound down after a decade or two and the decision to divorce was mutual and amicable, both parties could be ā€œemotionally availableā€ before theyā€™ve taken their rings off, much less finalized the divorce.


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