Dear Readers: I hosted an āAsk Me Anythingā last week, where I answered as many reader/listener questions as I could get to in 90 minutes. Here are some of the questions I didnāt get to before the buzzer soundedā¦
30s lesbian in a non-monogamous sexless marriage here. Do you think itās ever possible to re-spark a sexual connection if both partners are open to it? The context: I love good sex and have had incredibly hot sexual connections with other partners, but sex in my 10-year relationship with my wife has always been infrequent, i.e., two to three times a year. Sheās generally a very tired, low-energy person, and sheās so low-energy during sex that sheās literally fallen asleep mid-sex on a lot of occasions. This has done a number on my self-esteem, and the last decade of my life has been characterized by loneliness, yearning, and dissatisfaction. And lately, resentment has creeped in. You might tell me to go have amazing sex with other partners, but my wife is verrrry controlling of those connections and tends to treat me with a cold shoulder when I get involved with someone else. Iāve come to embrace the truth that this is not enough for me for the rest of my lifetime. Iām not sure how to dig my relationship out of this dynamic. Weāve been in therapy together for four years and although she says she wants the same exciting sex life that I want, nothing has changed.
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