Okay, this time I have to agree with you, ?pqM)mH{5i*7V7wVNiH?tcvUk'j>tH\VF5!V+00HY?jgK7@iA<_(B0Mii*:@e9Iq. Dan missed the point this time. According to the writer, her guy is a melancholic submissive, and she just wants to know if that means that he can't possibly be happy without coming out as gay. The answer is of course no, he's just a melancholic submissive; either like him like that or not.