I have been married for almost 23 years. I have two teenage children. My wife refuses any kind of intimacy with me and we have not had sex (let alone any kind of intimacy) for the last 10 years of our marriage. I use to be able to count on having sex on Valentines Day, my birthday and our anniversary but now not even those days. We have gone to counseling and my wife says she feels bad about us not having sex and she knows how much this issue has caused me pain but she has stated that she will never have sex again. The counselor says that I need to be supportive of this and just be patient; maybe she will change her mind. The lack of sex is causing me to really hate her. Should I wait for her to turnaround? Should I leave her or wait till the kids are gone? I just don’t understand this. I have told her that I will have an affair and she responded that I never would because I am loyal like a dog.

Loyal Like A Dog

My brief—and entirely predictable—response after the jump.

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Fuck your wife (figuratively), fuck your counselor (figuratively), and fuck other people (literally).

As for whether you stay with the wife for your kids's sakes, well, that's your call. If getting sex elsewhere helps you hate the wife less, and if you think your children would be traumatized by their parents divorcing at this stage in their lives, then perhaps you should fuck around and stick around. And don't feel bad about it: if fucking around helps you to stay with your wife for your kids' sakes, LLAD, then fucking around is the loyal-like-a-dog/loyal-to-your-family thing to do. But if things are or get toxic—of if your wife accuses you of "cheating" on her after you inform her that you're getting it elsewhere now (remember: you're the wronged party here)—then you should leave.