I am a 21-year-old girl in a relationship with a 22 year-old-boy. We've essentially been together since the day we met, which is nearing two years now. This is the first real relationship for both of us, and it's been really fucking fun and amazing and loving (though of course with some shitty times). And here is my dilemma: My loverboy is taking a six week solo trip to Europe this summer. He is adamant about taking this trip by himself, and as much as I love and want to trust the kid... I just really have a hard time wrapping my head around anyone's ability to remain celibate for six weeks, in Europe, while under the influence(s) at 22 YEARS OF AGE!

COME ON!

I've brought up the topic of breaking up before he leaves so that he can enjoy his trip without feeling guilt, and he denies even the possibility that anything could happen to jepoardize his faithfulness to me. I think this is really naive and I don't really know how to handle this. Should I end it before he leaves so he is free to "conquer" Europe? Do I bite the bullet even though all social, biological and emotional signs are pointing to saving my own heart from breaking when he comes back and possibly, probably has tales of a drunken night in Berlin? Am I being overly pessimistic about the whole thing?

A Little Guidance

My response after the jump...

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Let's say you don't break up with him, ALG, and he winds up getting his social, biological and emotional needs met by some German/French/Dutch/Swedish slut during a drunken night in Berlin.

Your heart will be broken.

Let's say you do break up with him, ALG, and he winds up getting his social, biological and emotional needs met by some Andorran/Liechtensteiner/Maltese/Luxembourger slut during a drunken night in Berlin.

Your heart will still be broken, right?

Now let's say that you don't break up with him and he doesn't wind up getting his social, biological and emotional needs met by any German/French/Dutch/Swedish/Andorran/Liechtensteiner/
Maltese/Luxembourger sluts during any of the drunken nights he spends in Berlin.

Your heart won't be broken!

So... it seems that the only option that allows for the avoidance of heartbreak is to refrain from breaking up with him and trusting him when he says he won't fuck any German/French/Dutch/Swedish/Andorran/
Liechtensteiner/Maltese/Luxembourger sluts while he's away. And if he does wind up fucking some German/French/Dutch/Swedish/Andorran/Liechtensteiner/Maltese/Luxembourger slut (or two), ALG, you can break up with him when he gets back.

Or, you know, not. Forgiveness and/or DADT is/are always a/an option/options when he gets back. (As are Iowan/Ohioan/Idahoan/Minnesotan/Californian/Delawarean/Montanan/Kentuckian boys while he's gone.)