I was dating this guy for a month. I really like him. The first time we where going to have sex he was partying, if you know what I mean, so he wasn't fucking me, just eating me. My Pussy, my ass, fingering me. He started fingering my ass but I don’t like that but since he was partying I was like, okay, he can’t get hard so I'll let him finger my ass. The next time we had sex he wasn't partying but he did the same things again: licking my pussy and ass, playing with my tits, but still: he was not hard. "What’s wrong?" I asked him. He didn’t say anything, he just kept eating, so I asked him if he needed Viagra. He said no. I was confused. He got somewhat hard I laid him down and started to suck his dick. Then I decided to lick his ass and—BOOM—he's hard! I was like, "Well, okay then." I started riding him and I put my finger in his ass. The whole time I was riding him I was fingering his ass. He came so much and so hard. It was crazy. I've never seen so much come.

My question is, basically, is this guy gay? Or bi? Or more likely gay since he couldn’t get hard just from eating me or fingering me? I’ve never been in this situation before. We are not kids. We are both experienced adults. But I’m so confused because everyone will say, "Oh, he’s not gay! Don’t label people!" I'm like, "WTF are you talking about? I need to know if I should move on!" I don’t want to have to worry about him wanting to get with guys too. I actually told him I don’t want to see him anymore but still really like him. And I'm kind of curious to see what would happen if we had sex again.

Asking Savage Since Confused As Fuck, Eh?

This guy could be gay or he could bi... or he could be one of those straight guys who's really into butt stuff. And being into butt stuff isn't the difference between gay/bi men and straight men, ASSCAFE, being into men is the difference.

That said, ASSCAFE, there are certainly gay guys out there who fuck women. Some because they're so deeply conflicted they're not even consciously aware they're gay and some because they're deeply closeted and don't want people to suspect they're gay and having a girlfriend is a pretty good disguise—vaginas make great closets—but once they're in bed with a woman they have to do gayish seeming things in order to get there or, more typically, close their eyes and fantasize about actual gayish things in order to get off. And it goes without saying that bi guys like to fuck women. But just because this guy likes to have his ass played with doesn't mean he's gay or bi or wants a cock in his ass. It also doesn't mean he doesn't want a big ol' cock in his ass. He could!

But you know what works against him being gay? Which would obviously be more problematic for you then him being bi? The attention he paid to your pussy and tits. If he was the kind of closeted gay guy who had to pretend the woman he was in bed with was a dude while he did gayish seeming things, ASSCAFE, he would've ignored your pussy and your tits and focused all of his attention on your sweet, sweet, ambiguous butthole.

If you like him and enjoyed the sex and that impressive load, I'd encourage you to see this guy again. I don't think he's gay and if he's bi, well, that doesn't mean he has to get with guys too or will even want to get with guys. But he might want to take a ride on your dick.