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Savage Love
Tue
10:11 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Out and About
At 45, a married woman discovers she's a lesbian—but wants to stay married to her man, AND keep her girlfriend, AND be accepted by her family. Can she have it all?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Dec 3
10:08 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies
Holiday kinks, sneaky sex, anal etiquette, and more in this edition of Savage Love: Quickies!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Nov 26
10:07 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Turkey Run
When he says "eat me," he means it literally.
Dan Savage
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Savage Love
Nov 19
10:08 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Twinning
"I might be falling in love with my husband’s identical twin brother." 👯♂️
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Nov 12
1:12 PM
SAVAGE LOVE: Mourning in America
Advice for those who feel like democracy has abandoned them.
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Nov 5
10:24 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies
Get your advice lickety-split with the latest edition of Savage Love quickies!
Dan Savage
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Savage Love
Oct 29
1:00 PM
SAVAGE LOVE: Cope Don't Seethe
He says he doesn't have sexual fantasies... OR DOES HE?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Oct 22
10:48 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: The Rich Are Different
"I am incredibly rich, sexy, and have lots of lovers.
Whatever will I do??
"
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Oct 15
11:01 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Ace Space Case
"As a sex-repulsed asexual gay man, I feel alienated when I enter gay spaces like bars, parties, clubs."
Dan Savage
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Savage Love
Oct 8
10:28 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Struggle Sessions
It's amateur night at Savage Love, where YOU get to give snappy answers to desperate questions!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Oct 1
10:25 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies
Get your Savage hot takes to your most pressing quick questions here! And don't miss this week's SAVAGE LOVECAST with guest Caleb Hearon!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Sep 24
9:54 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Vice Grips
Can you "fuck the Republican" out of someone? Dan—and a former sworn enemy—issue a ruling.
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Sep 17
10:40 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Role Perversal
A longtime couple finally admit their sexy fantasies... but can't carry them out! WHAT CAN BE DONE?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Sep 10
11:00 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Lies That Bind
He repeatedly cheats, she told his family and friends. Are they both in the wrong?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Sep 3
11:55 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies
The "daddy/babygirl" dynamic, asexual curious, holding in your orgasm, swallowing curved appendages, and more!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Aug 27
11:49 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Top Five
Dan picks five letters from his mailbag at random... and they are doozies!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Aug 20
11:37 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Game On
His attempts at spontaneous sex are ANNOYING. Why is he doing it, and how can she get him to STOP?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Aug 13
10:40 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: What Eats You
She's queer and doesn't like to be licked. Why can't people get that through their heads?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Aug 6
10:54 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Big Ask
A question that might not be for Dan, and another that DEFINITELY is.
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jul 30
11:36 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies
Got sex problems? Get 'em answered quick with this edition of Savage Love "Quickies"!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jul 23
9:46 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Same Page
He doesn't want to have sex anymore. Can this relationship be saved... and if so, how?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jul 16
10:23 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Solo Survivor
"After time apart (and having sex with others), should we introduce new people into our relationship?"
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jul 9
10:55 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: The Outsiders
A married man in an open relationship needs advice about how to ask for what (and who) he wants on dating apps.
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jul 3
10:51 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Allowances
She refuses to indulge in his feeder/gainer kink—can he just turn his feelings off?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jun 25
12:03 PM
SAVAGE LOVE: Wants v. Gots
She's got an international part-time lover... but wants more. Should she ask for it?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jun 18
9:55 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Bruise Control
A reader who hurts himself feels like he's being judged while people into BDSM get celebrated. What's the difference?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jun 11
11:25 AM
Savage Love: Feathered Friends (With Benefits)
Grandma has a very... unusual... relationship with her pet parakeet. (Gulp.)
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jun 4
10:22 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies
Pegging purists, jilted unicorns, cheating BFs, and more!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
May 28
12:00 PM
SAVAGE LOVE: Slick Moves
"My sex pal won't stop mishandling our lube." Can Dan help this person navigate their slippery situation?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
May 21
10:26 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Mommy Issues
"My 13-year-old son is involved in an online Dom/sub relationship. Ummmm... HELP!!"
Dan Savage
Savage Love
May 14
11:51 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Frozen
"I've never been able to orgasm, and my current sexual relationship stinks. So why should I continue trying?"
Dan Savage
Savage Love
May 7
12:05 PM
Savage Love: Messed Up
"My boyfriend is secretly asking for 'punitive' acts from strangers. That's cheating... right?"
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Apr 30
12:00 PM
SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies
Online lust, stinky butts, and falling in love with one's sex worker—all these and more in this edition of Savage Love "quickies"!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Apr 23
10:46 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Mask 4 Mask
"I post fetish content on the internet. How worried should I be that someone, like a future boss, might find out?"
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Apr 16
10:30 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Priced Out
Her boyfriend wants permission to hire sex workers. Is this a case of irreconcilable differences?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Apr 9
11:48 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Best Interests
Will his new polyamorous lifestyle endanger his current child custody agreement? Depends on where he lives!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Apr 2
11:29 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies
How to make a "throuple," defining undefinable relationships, tempting your workaholic lover, and much more in this edition of Savage Love "Quickies"!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Mar 26
10:23 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: What Counts
Is a woman having an emotional affair with a married man "micro-cheating"? And is the concept of "micro-cheating" bullshit? LET'S FIND OUT.
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Mar 19
10:43 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Dom and Dommer
She's been dominating him and he seems to love it... is this a problem or the beginning of a beautiful (and hot) relationship?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Mar 12
10:58 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Power Moves
After a lifetime of one-sided relationships, they finally found someone they're truly attracted to. Cue the freakout!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Mar 5
10:08 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: The Long Game
"Should I dump my girlfriend before or after we join a kink/swingers club?"
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Feb 27
10:36 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies!
Non-app dating, gay nude resorts, oral sex etiquette, and lots more in this edition of "Quickies"!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Feb 20
11:00 AM
Savage Love: Routine Maintenance
Maintenance sex: A necessary (often fun) chore or nonconsensual nonsense? Dan Savage weighs in.
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Feb 13
11:00 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Smash Button
She's kinky and poly; he's vanilla and monogamous. Can this relationship be saved?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jan 30
11:00 AM
Savage Love: Quickies
Platonic vs. romantic love, the right type of lube, hopping back on the fuck wagon, and more in this episode of Savage Love quickies!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jan 24
10:00 AM
Savage Love: Micro Nots
She's wondering what she did to get dumped... but first? Let's talk about polyamory.
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jan 16
12:00 PM
Savage Love: Script Doctor
She's married and has a "hall pass"—but how can she find out if her workplace crush also has a "hall pass"?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jan 9
10:37 AM
Savage Love: Loading Zone
This week, Savage tackles the eternal question: "Why are some people addicted to orgies?"
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jan 3
10:27 AM
Savage Love: Sexless Wonders
Can a relationship be successful even if the sex is terrible from the start?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Dec 26
12:58 PM
Savage Love: Christmas Break
A cuckold falls in love (and has "amazing sex") with his mother-in-law... or did he?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Dec 19
10:48 AM
Savage Love: Quickies
Let's end the year with a hot load of quickie sex questions (and answers)!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Dec 12
11:00 AM
Savage Love: Departures
He's been a bottom long enough, but hubby isn't having it. Now that he's found someone new, should he try to make his marriage work?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Dec 5
11:21 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Maintenance Haze
He ruined his relationship by chasing after the unattainable sexy neighbor. Now what should he do?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Nov 28
10:01 AM
Savage Love: What Was Lost
She can't get over losing her ex—what's an out-and-proud goddess to do?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Nov 21
10:47 AM
Savage Love: Thanks Again
His hubby did something BAD to the Thanksgiving family casserole... can this marriage be saved?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Nov 14
10:13 AM
Savage Love: Quickies
Strap in and strap on—it's time for more of your quickie sex questions answered lickety-split!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Nov 13
5:11 PM
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Savage Love
Nov 7
3:30 PM
Savage Love: Him City
He's gay, but lives in Salt Lake City. In order to find a lasting relationship, should he move?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Oct 31
10:30 AM
Savage Love: Not Glue
She's accused of something her partner had been doing to her for years, but still... should she feel bad?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Oct 24
11:28 AM
Savage Love: A New Dom
He has dreams of being a Dom, but there are... complications. What can he do to prepare?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Oct 17
10:29 AM
Savage Love: Animal Urges
A victim of childhood abuse is overwhelmed by guilt and shame. Will healing ever be an option?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Oct 10
10:04 AM
Savage Love: Quickies
Masturbation tricks, lube recommendations, and lots more quickie (and sexy) Q & As!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Oct 3
10:30 AM
Savage Love: The Finish Delegation
This guy thinks his controlled premature ejaculations are HOT—but does he need to let his partners know?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Sep 26
10:23 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Popping Off
Should one warn their sex partner before doing poppers? Dan Savage sniffs out the truth.
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Sep 19
10:47 AM
Savage Love: Didn't Happen
A reader's wife might be cucking him... but not the way he claims.
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Sep 12
10:47 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: The Italian Job
Not all Italian relationships are hot—in fact, this one is withering on the vine.
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Sep 5
2:00 PM
SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies
Get your down 'n' dirty answers fast in this edition of Savage Love: Quickies!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Aug 29
10:10 AM
Savage Love: Blow Over
A fellatio-deprived hubby wants more than he's getting. But how much should he expect?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Aug 22
11:00 AM
Savage Love: She Will Not Be Ignored
Two marriages in, and she still can't let go of the idea of a forever relationship with her "first love." Is she gonna drop it or what?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Aug 15
11:11 AM
Savage Love: Millstones
His partner is demanding “relationship milestones”—but is that too heavy of a lift?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Aug 8
11:00 AM
Savage Love: Age Played
A dude in his 40s slept with someone who he thought was 21—but was actually much younger. How shitty should he feel?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Aug 1
10:00 AM
Savage Love: Family Ties
A single nightmare dad joke ruined bondage for me. Do I need therapy now?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jul 25
10:41 AM
Savage Love: Take Care
In this week's column: "After two sexless decades, how can I let my partner know my needs aren't being met?"
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jul 18
11:11 AM
Savage Love: Quickies
Pineapple-flavored cum, health concerns over licking armpits, and lots more quickie, sexy Qs!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jul 11
11:00 AM
Savage Love: First Trap
She's never been kissed... or had sex. Forget about getting her groove
back
, how's she gonna get it in the first place?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jul 4
9:39 AM
Savage Love: TEARS Factor
She's the "other woman," but wait... it's more complicated than that.
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jun 27
1:00 PM
Savage Love: Topside
He wants her to be his Dom Goddess, and she's like, "what?"... but turned on. So where does she start?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jun 20
10:29 AM
Savage Love: What To Expect
Lack of sex leads to a slow motion matrimonial train wreck.
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jun 13
10:33 AM
SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies
Get your sexual problems solved lickety-split with this quick 'n' dirty edition of Savage Love!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jun 6
10:56 AM
Savage Love: Out With It
Happy Pride! Here is the most LGBTQ shit Dan has ever read.
Dan Savage
Savage Love
May 30
2:48 PM
Savage Love: Appetite For Destruction
An apparently "famous" artist doesn't want the world to know he's bisexual—and apparently doesn't realize that no one gives a shit.
Dan Savage
Savage Love
May 23
11:57 AM
Savage Love: How's That?!
"I like to pee on myself. Got a problem with that?"
Dan Savage
Savage Love
May 16
10:25 AM
Savage Love: Wash It Away
Is it possible to "un-sleep" with someone, and like Cher, "turn back time"?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
May 9
10:30 AM
Savage Love: Chick Lit
She's got erotic literature on the brain. And that's good... right? Or is it?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
May 2
9:59 AM
Savage Love: Fake and Faker
He agreed to be a financial slave to his supposedly domineering wife... but Savage smells a RAT.
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Apr 25
11:00 AM
Savage Love: Questions
She complains about his BO following sex—but is there something else going on
besides
a sensitive snoot?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Apr 18
9:57 AM
Savage Love: Shameful
Hubby's into diaper play; wifey is losing her shit. Can this mind be saved?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Apr 11
9:56 AM
Savage Love: Quickies
"Ruined" orgasms, lack of fuckability concerns, and lots more quicky sex queries!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Apr 4
10:13 AM
Savage Love: Sister, Wife
"My wife's sister texted to say she has my wife's permission to sleep with me. Ummmm... WHAT."
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Mar 28
11:00 AM
Savage Love: Asked and Answered
A lesbian in a 10-year sexless marriage wants to re-spark the connection... but is this a "too little, too late" situation?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Mar 21
12:13 PM
Savage Love: Size Peace
She's ashamed of the way her body looks... is there any way to feel sexy again?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Mar 14
10:28 AM
Coming Around
In this week's SAVAGE LOVE: She was never able to have vaginal penetration orgasms before... but now? BLAMMO! What's up with that?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Mar 7
12:00 PM
Quickies
In this week's SAVAGE LOVE: Abortion pills, escorts, and how to get laid at the gym!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Feb 28
11:00 AM
Charades
In this week's SAVAGE LOVE: Hubby keeps sending love letters to his ex, despite wifey telling him to stop. Can this marriage be saved?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Feb 21
10:00 AM
Pegged As Bi
In this week's SAVAGE LOVE: She's okay with pegging his butt... but pegging his face, too?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Feb 14
12:00 PM
Kant Say No
In this week's SAVAGE LOVE: A sugar daddy wants to give him his entire fortune. Should he take it?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Feb 7
1:00 PM
Dom Vibes
In this week's SAVAGE LOVE: She's into BDSM, hubby is definitely
not
. Can this relationship be saved?
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jan 31
2:00 PM
Quickies!
Need your sex life fixed in a hurry? This edition of SAVAGE LOVE "Quickies" can help!
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jan 24
10:05 AM
Case Disclosed
In this week's SAVAGE LOVE: "My BF has undetectable HIV. How much should we disclose to future play partners?"
Dan Savage
Savage Love
Jan 17
11:00 AM
Manners
In this week's SAVAGE LOVE: "Am I being used as a pawn in my lover's sex games with his primary partner?"
Dan Savage
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