SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies!

Trauma turn-ons, sweet chastity, a life without kink, and lots more quickie Qs!

SAVAGE LOVE: Christmas Wrapping

"I'll be home (at my friend's sex dungeon) for Christmas."

SAVAGE LOVE: Good Working Order

This week: a case of the "ex," a gay awakening, and a very soggy mattress.

SAVAGE LOVE: Creepy Dancer

Hands off! Her new boyfriend's friend is a dancefloor groper.

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Trump's "gay" ballroom, learning the ropes, urine in the neti pot, and more in this edition of "Quickies"!

SAVAGE LOVE: Happy Spanksgiving

Unrequited crushes, obsessed with gym grunts, and a Thanksgiving to forget—forever.

SAVAGE LOVE: Three Options

"Is an open relationship a feasible option?" "Hmmm... let me ask my husband of thirty years and my boyfriend of thirteen years."

SAVAGE LOVE: Snakes and Bladders

Straight guy wonders: "What's it like to have a larger penis? And hold it while he pees?" 🤔

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies!

Get your sexiest questions answered lickety-split in this edition of "Quickies"!

SAVAGE LOVE: Cage Match

He can't find a cage to fit his cock, and she's sad her brother touched her tits. Another week in the life of Savage Love!

SAVAGE LOVE: Full Spectrum

A boy on the spectrum is into niche sexual material—what's a parent to do?

YOUR SUNDAY READING LIST: Emergency Nudity, ICE on Parade, and Portland's Hero Frogs

SAVAGE LOVE: Love and Leashes

Insecure subs, bisexual shaming, and a competition for gayest T-shirt in the land!

SAVAGE LOVE: The Cuckening

He loves being cucked, she loves getting some extra "D"—but what to do about... JEALOUSY?

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Pearl installation, hubbies on PrEP, and the major differences between molasses and lube in this edition of "Quickies."

SAVAGE LOVE: Think of the Children

She's been non-monogamous for years—so should she tell her kids?

SAVAGE LOVE: Making the Upgrade

"I'm not comfortable having sex or even talking to guys unless I’m drunk or high."

SAVAGE LOVE: Bad Romance

Breaking: Not all lesbians have gotten the memo that oral is part of the job description.

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies!

Get your sexy problems fixed lickety-split with this edition of Savage Love: Quickies!

SAVAGE LOVE: Long Time!

He likes to be tied up—she wants him to murder that kink in its sleep.

SAVAGE LOVE: Four Options

Ambiguous desires, nudist camp etiquette, and a new word for straight dudes who like dick.

SAVAGE LOVE: Zone Police

"My boyfriend masturbates to AI-created images of our friends. Cool or not cool?"

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies!

Get answers for your sexy questions lickety-split in this edition of Savage Love quickies!

SAVAGE LOVE: Blood Sport

"I’m a professional dominatrix, and I thought I’d seen everything in the last five years. But this situation completely baffled the entire dungeon."

SAVAGE LOVE: Fading Away

What to do when a friend won't stop talking about their amazing sex life (and it's making you miserable). 

SAVAGE LOVE: Privacy Settings

"I’m worried I’m going to run into my dad in a kink space."

SAVAGE LOVE: Fear of Fairing

Is monogamy is ethically wrong if one partner wants something else?

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies!

Tighty-whiteys, late-blooming bisexuals, dick disposal, and more!

SAVAGE LOVE: Situation Critical

She constantly compared him to her past lovers—was he wrong to split?

SAVAGE LOVE: Had To Getaway

Random vacation sex leads to fun... then anger... then shame. What did she do wrong?

SAVAGE LOVE: The Boyfriend Experience

Her boyfriend confessed to making a secret Bumble account. Should she listen to the TikTok mob and dump him?

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Stinky hookups, femboy mechanics, and disappointing doms in this edition of "Quickies!"

SAVAGE LOVE: Slut Biome

Is "butt stuff" messing up her gastrointestinal system? (Not a real) Doctor Savage to the rescue!

SAVAGE LOVE: Jerked Around

She does NOT like it when hubby locks himself in the bathroom to masturbate. 👀

SAVAGE LOVE: Hurt People

His throuple blew up in his face, leaving him heartbroken. But after moving on, guess who comes crawling back?

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Get your sexy advice lickety-split in this edition of "Quickies!"

SAVAGE LOVE: Code Red

"Gingerism" is a THING. And it's made this red-head's sexual life unnecessarily complicated. 

SAVAGE LOVE: Defaulting

A "don't ask, don't tell" relationship gets horny... then thorny.

SAVAGE LOVE: Sailed Ships

Her formerly drunk hubby cleaned up his act... or did he? 

SAVAGE LOVE: Vibe Shifts

How do you plan a hot, sexy getaway with sexy friends? Or can you?

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Get your sex advice lickety-split with this edition of Savage Love: Quickies!

SAVAGE LOVE: Come and Go

"I had sex in a hot tub once... and it ruined my life."

SAVAGE LOVE: Off the Table

"She finds sex too painful and no longer wants to have intercourse. But... what about me?"

SAVAGE LOVE: Runaway, Bride!

"I've been married for almost two years, and we still haven’t had sex." WHAT? 👀

SAVAGE LOVE: HUMP! Quickies

Quick (and dirty) questions from the HUMP! porn festival audience members!

SAVAGE LOVE: Acid Tongued

"My partner was prescribed a boric acid suppository. Will I die if I eat her out?"

SAVAGE LOVE: Team Fantasize

"Don't tease me with your hot fantasies if you don't actually want to do 'em!"

SAVAGE LOVE: Low and Slow

"How do I stop pushing Daddies away with my neediness?"

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Solve your tricky sex problems quick with this edition of Savage Love: Quickies!

SAVAGE LOVE: The Counterfeit

"I've been faking orgasms... for months. How do I break this cycle?"

SAVAGE LOVE: Trump and Dump

Her partner's son is a virulent, Trump-loving homophobe. How is she supposed to put up with this?

SAVAGE LOVE: Fear Factors

Her 17-year-old son is hooking up with older men, and she's terrified.

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Get your sex advice quick with this edition of Savage Love quickies!

SAVAGE LOVE: The Sixties

He enjoys oral over vaginal sex, and she isn't satisfied. What to do?

SAVAGE LOVE: Damaged Goods

A sudden onset of premature ejaculation has her wondering, "Will I ever be able to enjoyably ride my husband again?"

SAVAGE LOVE: Crop Top

"My boobs won't stop growing, so I'm undergoing top surgery—and my husband is distressed."

SAVAGE LOVE: Out and About

At 45, a married woman discovers she's a lesbian—but wants to stay married to her man, AND keep her girlfriend, AND be accepted by her family. Can she have it all?

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Holiday kinks, sneaky sex, anal etiquette, and more in this edition of Savage Love: Quickies!

SAVAGE LOVE: Turkey Run

When he says "eat me," he means it literally.

SAVAGE LOVE: Twinning

"I might be falling in love with my husband’s identical twin brother." 👯‍♂️

SAVAGE LOVE: Mourning in America

Advice for those who feel like democracy has abandoned them.

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Get your advice lickety-split with the latest edition of Savage Love quickies!

SAVAGE LOVE: Cope Don't Seethe

He says he doesn't have sexual fantasies... OR DOES HE?

SAVAGE LOVE: The Rich Are Different

"I am incredibly rich, sexy, and have lots of lovers. Whatever will I do??"

SAVAGE LOVE: Ace Space Case

"As a sex-repulsed asexual gay man, I feel alienated when I enter gay spaces like bars, parties, clubs."

SAVAGE LOVE: Struggle Sessions

It's amateur night at Savage Love, where YOU get to give snappy answers to desperate questions!

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Get your Savage hot takes to your most pressing quick questions here! And don't miss this week's SAVAGE LOVECAST with guest Caleb Hearon!

SAVAGE LOVE: Vice Grips

Can you "fuck the Republican" out of someone? Dan—and a former sworn enemy—issue a ruling.

SAVAGE LOVE: Role Perversal

A longtime couple finally admit their sexy fantasies... but can't carry them out! WHAT CAN BE DONE?

SAVAGE LOVE: Lies That Bind

He repeatedly cheats, she told his family and friends. Are they both in the wrong?

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

The "daddy/babygirl" dynamic, asexual curious, holding in your orgasm, swallowing curved appendages, and more!

SAVAGE LOVE: Top Five

Dan picks five letters from his mailbag at random... and they are doozies!

SAVAGE LOVE: Game On

His attempts at spontaneous sex are ANNOYING. Why is he doing it, and how can she get him to STOP?

SAVAGE LOVE: What Eats You

She's queer and doesn't like to be licked. Why can't people get that through their heads?

SAVAGE LOVE: Big Ask

A question that might not be for Dan, and another that DEFINITELY is.

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Got sex problems? Get 'em answered quick with this edition of Savage Love "Quickies"!

SAVAGE LOVE: Same Page

He doesn't want to have sex anymore. Can this relationship be saved... and if so, how?

SAVAGE LOVE: Solo Survivor

"After time apart (and having sex with others), should we introduce new people into our relationship?"

SAVAGE LOVE: The Outsiders

A married man in an open relationship needs advice about how to ask for what (and who) he wants on dating apps. 

SAVAGE LOVE: Allowances

She refuses to indulge in his feeder/gainer kink—can he just turn his feelings off?

SAVAGE LOVE: Wants v. Gots

She's got an international part-time lover... but wants more. Should she ask for it?

SAVAGE LOVE: Bruise Control

A reader who hurts himself feels like he's being judged while people into BDSM get celebrated. What's the difference?

Savage Love: Feathered Friends (With Benefits)

Grandma has a very... unusual... relationship with her pet parakeet. (Gulp.)

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Pegging purists, jilted unicorns, cheating BFs, and more!

SAVAGE LOVE: Slick Moves

"My sex pal won't stop mishandling our lube." Can Dan help this person navigate their slippery situation?

SAVAGE LOVE: Mommy Issues

"My 13-year-old son is involved in an online Dom/sub relationship. Ummmm... HELP!!"

SAVAGE LOVE: Frozen

"I've never been able to orgasm, and my current sexual relationship stinks. So why should I continue trying?"

Savage Love: Messed Up

"My boyfriend is secretly asking for 'punitive' acts from strangers. That's cheating... right?"

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Online lust, stinky butts, and falling in love with one's sex worker—all these and more in this edition of Savage Love "quickies"!

SAVAGE LOVE: Mask 4 Mask

"I post fetish content on the internet. How worried should I be that someone, like a future boss, might find out?"

SAVAGE LOVE: Priced Out

Her boyfriend wants permission to hire sex workers. Is this a case of irreconcilable differences?

SAVAGE LOVE: Best Interests

Will his new polyamorous lifestyle endanger his current child custody agreement? Depends on where he lives!

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

How to make a "throuple," defining undefinable relationships, tempting your workaholic lover, and much more in this edition of Savage Love "Quickies"!

SAVAGE LOVE: What Counts

Is a woman having an emotional affair with a married man "micro-cheating"? And is the concept of "micro-cheating" bullshit? LET'S FIND OUT.

SAVAGE LOVE: Dom and Dommer

She's been dominating him and he seems to love it... is this a problem or the beginning of a beautiful (and hot) relationship?

SAVAGE LOVE: Power Moves

After a lifetime of one-sided relationships, they finally found someone they're truly attracted to. Cue the freakout!

SAVAGE LOVE: The Long Game

"Should I dump my girlfriend before or after we join a kink/swingers club?"

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies!

Non-app dating, gay nude resorts, oral sex etiquette, and lots more in this edition of "Quickies"!

Savage Love: Routine Maintenance

Maintenance sex: A necessary (often fun) chore or nonconsensual nonsense? Dan Savage weighs in.