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Savage Love Tue 10:11 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Out and About

At 45, a married woman discovers she's a lesbian—but wants to stay married to her man, AND keep her girlfriend, AND be accepted by her family. Can she have it all?

Savage Love Dec 3 10:08 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Holiday kinks, sneaky sex, anal etiquette, and more in this edition of Savage Love: Quickies!

Savage Love Nov 26 10:07 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Turkey Run

When he says "eat me," he means it literally.

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Savage Love Nov 19 10:08 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Twinning

"I might be falling in love with my husband’s identical twin brother." 👯‍♂️

Savage Love Nov 12 1:12 PM

SAVAGE LOVE: Mourning in America

Advice for those who feel like democracy has abandoned them.

Savage Love Nov 5 10:24 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Get your advice lickety-split with the latest edition of Savage Love quickies!

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Savage Love Oct 29 1:00 PM

SAVAGE LOVE: Cope Don't Seethe

He says he doesn't have sexual fantasies... OR DOES HE?

Savage Love Oct 22 10:48 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: The Rich Are Different

"I am incredibly rich, sexy, and have lots of lovers. Whatever will I do??"

Savage Love Oct 15 11:01 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Ace Space Case

"As a sex-repulsed asexual gay man, I feel alienated when I enter gay spaces like bars, parties, clubs."

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Savage Love Oct 8 10:28 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Struggle Sessions

It's amateur night at Savage Love, where YOU get to give snappy answers to desperate questions!

Savage Love Oct 1 10:25 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Get your Savage hot takes to your most pressing quick questions here! And don't miss this week's SAVAGE LOVECAST with guest Caleb Hearon!

Savage Love Sep 24 9:54 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Vice Grips

Can you "fuck the Republican" out of someone? Dan—and a former sworn enemy—issue a ruling.

Savage Love Sep 17 10:40 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Role Perversal

A longtime couple finally admit their sexy fantasies... but can't carry them out! WHAT CAN BE DONE?

Savage Love Sep 10 11:00 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Lies That Bind

He repeatedly cheats, she told his family and friends. Are they both in the wrong?

Savage Love Sep 3 11:55 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

The "daddy/babygirl" dynamic, asexual curious, holding in your orgasm, swallowing curved appendages, and more!

Savage Love Aug 27 11:49 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Top Five

Dan picks five letters from his mailbag at random... and they are doozies!

Savage Love Aug 20 11:37 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Game On

His attempts at spontaneous sex are ANNOYING. Why is he doing it, and how can she get him to STOP?

Savage Love Aug 13 10:40 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: What Eats You

She's queer and doesn't like to be licked. Why can't people get that through their heads?

Savage Love Aug 6 10:54 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Big Ask

A question that might not be for Dan, and another that DEFINITELY is.

Savage Love Jul 30 11:36 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Got sex problems? Get 'em answered quick with this edition of Savage Love "Quickies"!

Savage Love Jul 23 9:46 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Same Page

He doesn't want to have sex anymore. Can this relationship be saved... and if so, how?

Savage Love Jul 16 10:23 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Solo Survivor

"After time apart (and having sex with others), should we introduce new people into our relationship?"

Savage Love Jul 9 10:55 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: The Outsiders

A married man in an open relationship needs advice about how to ask for what (and who) he wants on dating apps. 

Savage Love Jul 3 10:51 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Allowances

She refuses to indulge in his feeder/gainer kink—can he just turn his feelings off?

Savage Love Jun 25 12:03 PM

SAVAGE LOVE: Wants v. Gots

She's got an international part-time lover... but wants more. Should she ask for it?

Savage Love Jun 18 9:55 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Bruise Control

A reader who hurts himself feels like he's being judged while people into BDSM get celebrated. What's the difference?

Savage Love Jun 11 11:25 AM

Savage Love: Feathered Friends (With Benefits)

Grandma has a very... unusual... relationship with her pet parakeet. (Gulp.)

Savage Love Jun 4 10:22 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Pegging purists, jilted unicorns, cheating BFs, and more!

Savage Love May 28 12:00 PM

SAVAGE LOVE: Slick Moves

"My sex pal won't stop mishandling our lube." Can Dan help this person navigate their slippery situation?

Savage Love May 21 10:26 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Mommy Issues

"My 13-year-old son is involved in an online Dom/sub relationship. Ummmm... HELP!!"

Savage Love May 14 11:51 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Frozen

"I've never been able to orgasm, and my current sexual relationship stinks. So why should I continue trying?"

Savage Love May 7 12:05 PM

Savage Love: Messed Up

"My boyfriend is secretly asking for 'punitive' acts from strangers. That's cheating... right?"

Savage Love Apr 30 12:00 PM

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Online lust, stinky butts, and falling in love with one's sex worker—all these and more in this edition of Savage Love "quickies"!

Savage Love Apr 23 10:46 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Mask 4 Mask

"I post fetish content on the internet. How worried should I be that someone, like a future boss, might find out?"

Savage Love Apr 16 10:30 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Priced Out

Her boyfriend wants permission to hire sex workers. Is this a case of irreconcilable differences?

Savage Love Apr 9 11:48 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Best Interests

Will his new polyamorous lifestyle endanger his current child custody agreement? Depends on where he lives!

Savage Love Apr 2 11:29 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

How to make a "throuple," defining undefinable relationships, tempting your workaholic lover, and much more in this edition of Savage Love "Quickies"!

Savage Love Mar 26 10:23 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: What Counts

Is a woman having an emotional affair with a married man "micro-cheating"? And is the concept of "micro-cheating" bullshit? LET'S FIND OUT.

Savage Love Mar 19 10:43 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Dom and Dommer

She's been dominating him and he seems to love it... is this a problem or the beginning of a beautiful (and hot) relationship?

Savage Love Mar 12 10:58 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Power Moves

After a lifetime of one-sided relationships, they finally found someone they're truly attracted to. Cue the freakout!

Savage Love Mar 5 10:08 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: The Long Game

"Should I dump my girlfriend before or after we join a kink/swingers club?"

Savage Love Feb 27 10:36 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies!

Non-app dating, gay nude resorts, oral sex etiquette, and lots more in this edition of "Quickies"!

Savage Love Feb 20 11:00 AM

Savage Love: Routine Maintenance

Maintenance sex: A necessary (often fun) chore or nonconsensual nonsense? Dan Savage weighs in.

Savage Love Feb 13 11:00 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Smash Button

She's kinky and poly; he's vanilla and monogamous. Can this relationship be saved?

Savage Love Jan 30 11:00 AM

Savage Love: Quickies

Platonic vs. romantic love, the right type of lube, hopping back on the fuck wagon, and more in this episode of Savage Love quickies!

Savage Love Jan 24 10:00 AM

Savage Love: Micro Nots

She's wondering what she did to get dumped... but first? Let's talk about polyamory.

Savage Love Jan 16 12:00 PM

Savage Love: Script Doctor

She's married and has a "hall pass"—but how can she find out if her workplace crush also has a "hall pass"?

Savage Love Jan 9 10:37 AM

Savage Love: Loading Zone

This week, Savage tackles the eternal question: "Why are some people addicted to orgies?"

Savage Love Jan 3 10:27 AM

Savage Love: Sexless Wonders

Can a relationship be successful even if the sex is terrible from the start?

Savage Love Dec 26 12:58 PM

Savage Love: Christmas Break

A cuckold falls in love (and has "amazing sex") with his mother-in-law... or did he?

Savage Love Dec 19 10:48 AM

Savage Love: Quickies

Let's end the year with a hot load of quickie sex questions (and answers)!

Savage Love Dec 12 11:00 AM

Savage Love: Departures

He's been a bottom long enough, but hubby isn't having it. Now that he's found someone new, should he try to make his marriage work?

Savage Love Dec 5 11:21 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Maintenance Haze

He ruined his relationship by chasing after the unattainable sexy neighbor. Now what should he do?

Savage Love Nov 28 10:01 AM

Savage Love: What Was Lost

She can't get over losing her ex—what's an out-and-proud goddess to do?

Savage Love Nov 21 10:47 AM

Savage Love: Thanks Again

His hubby did something BAD to the Thanksgiving family casserole... can this marriage be saved?

Savage Love Nov 14 10:13 AM

Savage Love: Quickies

Strap in and strap on—it's time for more of your quickie sex questions answered lickety-split!

Savage Love Nov 13 5:11 PM

Chat with Dan Savage!

Join Us for Savage Love Live Thursday, Nov 16 at Noon

Savage Love Nov 7 3:30 PM

Savage Love: Him City

He's gay, but lives in Salt Lake City. In order to find a lasting relationship, should he move?

Savage Love Oct 31 10:30 AM

Savage Love: Not Glue

She's accused of something her partner had been doing to her for years, but still... should she feel bad?

Savage Love Oct 24 11:28 AM

Savage Love: A New Dom

He has dreams of being a Dom, but there are... complications. What can he do to prepare?

Savage Love Oct 17 10:29 AM

Savage Love: Animal Urges

A victim of childhood abuse is overwhelmed by guilt and shame. Will healing ever be an option?

Savage Love Oct 10 10:04 AM

Savage Love: Quickies

Masturbation tricks, lube recommendations, and lots more quickie (and sexy) Q & As!

Savage Love Oct 3 10:30 AM

Savage Love: The Finish Delegation

This guy thinks his controlled premature ejaculations are HOT—but does he need to let his partners know?

Savage Love Sep 26 10:23 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Popping Off

Should one warn their sex partner before doing poppers? Dan Savage sniffs out the truth.

Savage Love Sep 19 10:47 AM

Savage Love: Didn't Happen

A reader's wife might be cucking him... but not the way he claims.

Savage Love Sep 12 10:47 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: The Italian Job

Not all Italian relationships are hot—in fact, this one is withering on the vine.

Savage Love Sep 5 2:00 PM

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Get your down 'n' dirty answers fast in this edition of Savage Love: Quickies!

Savage Love Aug 29 10:10 AM

Savage Love: Blow Over

A fellatio-deprived hubby wants more than he's getting. But how much should he expect?

Savage Love Aug 22 11:00 AM

Savage Love: She Will Not Be Ignored

Two marriages in, and she still can't let go of the idea of a forever relationship with her "first love." Is she gonna drop it or what?

Savage Love Aug 15 11:11 AM

Savage Love: Millstones

His partner is demanding “relationship milestones”—but is that too heavy of a lift?

Savage Love Aug 8 11:00 AM

Savage Love: Age Played

A dude in his 40s slept with someone who he thought was 21—but was actually much younger. How shitty should he feel?

Savage Love Aug 1 10:00 AM

Savage Love: Family Ties

A single nightmare dad joke ruined bondage for me. Do I need therapy now?

Savage Love Jul 25 10:41 AM

Savage Love: Take Care

In this week's column: "After two sexless decades, how can I let my partner know my needs aren't being met?"

Savage Love Jul 18 11:11 AM

Savage Love: Quickies

Pineapple-flavored cum, health concerns over licking armpits, and lots more quickie, sexy Qs!

Savage Love Jul 11 11:00 AM

Savage Love: First Trap

She's never been kissed... or had sex. Forget about getting her groove back, how's she gonna get it in the first place?

Savage Love Jul 4 9:39 AM

Savage Love: TEARS Factor

She's the "other woman," but wait... it's more complicated than that.

Savage Love Jun 27 1:00 PM

Savage Love: Topside

He wants her to be his Dom Goddess, and she's like, "what?"... but turned on. So where does she start?

Savage Love Jun 20 10:29 AM

Savage Love: What To Expect

Lack of sex leads to a slow motion matrimonial train wreck.

Savage Love Jun 13 10:33 AM

SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Get your sexual problems solved lickety-split with this quick 'n' dirty edition of Savage Love!

Savage Love Jun 6 10:56 AM

Savage Love: Out With It

Happy Pride! Here is the most LGBTQ shit Dan has ever read.

Savage Love May 30 2:48 PM

Savage Love: Appetite For Destruction

An apparently "famous" artist doesn't want the world to know he's bisexual—and apparently doesn't realize that no one gives a shit.

Savage Love May 23 11:57 AM

Savage Love: How's That?!

"I like to pee on myself. Got a problem with that?"

Savage Love May 16 10:25 AM

Savage Love: Wash It Away

Is it possible to "un-sleep" with someone, and like Cher, "turn back time"?

Savage Love May 9 10:30 AM

Savage Love: Chick Lit

She's got erotic literature on the brain. And that's good... right? Or is it?

Savage Love May 2 9:59 AM

Savage Love: Fake and Faker

He agreed to be a financial slave to his supposedly domineering wife... but Savage smells a RAT.

Savage Love Apr 25 11:00 AM

Savage Love: Questions

She complains about his BO following sex—but is there something else going on besides a sensitive snoot?

Savage Love Apr 18 9:57 AM

Savage Love: Shameful

Hubby's into diaper play; wifey is losing her shit. Can this mind be saved?

Savage Love Apr 11 9:56 AM

Savage Love: Quickies

"Ruined" orgasms, lack of fuckability concerns, and lots more quicky sex queries!

Savage Love Apr 4 10:13 AM

Savage Love: Sister, Wife

"My wife's sister texted to say she has my wife's permission to sleep with me. Ummmm... WHAT."

Savage Love Mar 28 11:00 AM

Savage Love: Asked and Answered

A lesbian in a 10-year sexless marriage wants to re-spark the connection... but is this a "too little, too late" situation?

Savage Love Mar 21 12:13 PM

Savage Love: Size Peace

She's ashamed of the way her body looks... is there any way to feel sexy again?

Savage Love Mar 14 10:28 AM

Coming Around

In this week's SAVAGE LOVE: She was never able to have vaginal penetration orgasms before... but now? BLAMMO! What's up with that?

Savage Love Mar 7 12:00 PM

Quickies

In this week's SAVAGE LOVE: Abortion pills, escorts, and how to get laid at the gym!

Savage Love Feb 28 11:00 AM

Charades

In this week's SAVAGE LOVE: Hubby keeps sending love letters to his ex, despite wifey telling him to stop. Can this marriage be saved?

Savage Love Feb 21 10:00 AM

Pegged As Bi

In this week's SAVAGE LOVE: She's okay with pegging his butt... but pegging his face, too? 

Savage Love Feb 14 12:00 PM

Kant Say No

In this week's SAVAGE LOVE: A sugar daddy wants to give him his entire fortune. Should he take it?

Savage Love Feb 7 1:00 PM

Dom Vibes

In this week's SAVAGE LOVE: She's into BDSM, hubby is definitely not. Can this relationship be saved?

Savage Love Jan 31 2:00 PM

Quickies!

Need your sex life fixed in a hurry? This edition of SAVAGE LOVE "Quickies" can help!

Savage Love Jan 24 10:05 AM

Case Disclosed

In this week's SAVAGE LOVE: "My BF has undetectable HIV. How much should we disclose to future play partners?"

Savage Love Jan 17 11:00 AM

Manners

In this week's SAVAGE LOVE: "Am I being used as a pawn in my lover's sex games with his primary partner?"