Does your standard advice about sexless marriages extend to orally sexless marriages? My wife and I have been together for a couple decades. We met in our late teens, and we are each otherโ€™s first and only sexual partners. Oral sex used to be a regular part of our sex life, for the first decade or so, but the BJ frequency has declined to once every couple of years. Iโ€™m still game to give and always offer and often go down on my wife as foreplay. But my wife is basically no longer interested in blowing me, even though sheโ€™s great at it and I love it. We have a really strong relationship but busy lives with kids and jobs, which definitely impacts her sex drive and energy. Itโ€™s not a relationship ending thing for me, but the thought of not getting my dick sucked more than a few more times for the rest of my life, well, that fucking sucks to think about. Iโ€™ve raised it with her a number of times, but she just doesnโ€™t think itโ€™s important and, most frustratingly, plainly isnโ€™t interested in trying to get interested again. Weโ€™re committed to monogamy, and outside sexual partners just wouldnโ€™t fit in our lives. Iโ€™ve got to imagine this is pretty common. Do I just have to resign myself to a fellatio-deprived future? Or should I expect more?

The Headless Husband

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